I know that he deserves to hear it face to face, but I suck at that. I have tried to make my marriage work, but I have given to many chances and he doesn't change. He is his #1 priority, not our son or me, and he's proven it over & over again.
2007-03-30 08:49:29 · 8 answers · asked by SILVERLINING 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think I should have mentioned - I don't want to leave, I want him to leave. My son & I deserve the house. I got us appri\oved to buy it, I clean it and I make sure it's paid for (he does give me money to help w the bills, but I make sure everything is paid)
2007-03-30 09:26:59 · update #1
I've never understood why it is that "face to face" is considered best. I would write him a Dear John letter and be kind in it. That way, there is closure on both ends and he will at least know why this has happened and can feel his emotions without being vulnerable in front of you.
Good luck to you and to your son.
2007-03-30 08:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by wsibwigu 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hard, its not that you suck at it, the plain idea of telling someone that you dont want to be with sucks. But it is the best thing to do. You know I dont know how your husband is, but I want you to think of his attitude for a minute or two. Have you ever experience your husband getting really upset, or mad and losing his temper to a point that its really scary? I think we never learn to know the person that we are with even if we live together. I just want you to think about that for a minute, I dont want you putting yourself and your son in a bad position that might lead to him hurting you. I would suggest that you talk to your son, If he is at an age where he understands what going on, if hes a baby maybe you can leave him with a family member while you talk to your husband. If he has lost his temper before make sure somebody around you knows where you are in case you need help. Many people have a hard time accepting that a relationship has come to an end. Many people commit terrible things in a rage and its something to have in mind. Talk to him with your heart in your hand (its a saying in spanish) everything that comes from your heart. Let him know its an end that needs to happen for both of you to grow. That you think better yet know that its the best for you guys. There are no correct words to say or a correct way. Your intuition is telling you no more and you should listen to it, its the best thing that we as individuals have. Many of us though prefer to ignore it and that is why we are not happy sometimes . Please remember about your safety and your childs safety. Again, many people turn into ugly individuals when they hear something that they dont like. God Bless...
2007-03-30 09:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him in a very civil way that the marriage is not working for you. You need more from him than he is capable of giving. It is time you moved on.
2007-03-30 08:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be easier since he loves himself more than You and Your son. He'll never change
Most likely his mom made him turn out that way.
2007-03-30 09:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him by packing my stuff and walking out the front door with your son in hand. Then your lawyer can say it with the papers!
2007-03-30 08:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Face to Face is best but not a must...
Do it by phone / email or text message as did Britney Spears.
2007-03-30 08:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As you walk out the door...tell him..Not to much face to face, but in person...
2007-03-30 08:53:36 · answer #7 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actions speak louder then words. I think he'll figure it out and you say "This isn't working for me" and then walk out the door. 'Nuff said.
2007-03-30 09:01:51 · answer #8 · answered by Holiday 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋