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2007-03-30 08:21:22 · 14 answers · asked by Tracey Fahnestock 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Frankly, it's been a mixture of good and bad. The good is I'm now essentially out of debt, except for a mortgage, the bad is I still have to deal with an unfaithful and unreliable ex-wife when it comes to co-parenting.
I'm about 4 years out from the separation, from what was a 7 year marriage, and I believe I'm a better person for having gone through the divorce.
I am seeing a wonderful woman who says what she means and means what she says, and am in pre-marital counselling with her at her church.
So it's a mixed bag. Divorce didn't really settle many issues that we had during the marriage. Communication is still poor. She still assumes the worst (my theory is if she has to face the fact that I wasn't as bad as she claims I was, then she has to own up to her hurtful behavior) about me, and refuses to communicate when it comes to co-parenting issues.
2007-03-30 08:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was married for 10 years and after my divorce I was devistated! I didnt know how I was ever going to get over it! I didnt want to be back in the dating scene, and didnt have many friends to talk to.
About a year or so following my divorce is when I was able to feel good again. I felt like I was finally over him enough to start going out. I have only had one serious relationship since then and its been 5 years now. I enjoy being single!! I love the freedom to do what I want when I want. I am in no big hurry to go out and get remarried any time soon!! (if ever). So, life after divorce is hard at first but gets easier as time goes by. I love my life now!!
2007-03-30 08:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see... Where to start? Well I can say I've never looked back, that's for sure. But I struggle daily with trust issues. My most recent boyfriend broke things off because he felt like I constantly compared him to my ex. Wrong! They are so opposite. My ex- boyfriend is a beautiful person but I allowed my fear to drive him away. I am learning to deal with my anti-trust issues and learn that I do deserve to be loved purely without strings attached. It's a daily progression and I'm glad I been given the second chance to search for happiness. Hope that helps.
2007-03-30 08:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by a j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for three years to the love of my life. At the time he left me we had an 18 month old son. He went out to sea (Navy) in support of the war. I was faithful the entire 8 months he was out to sea; and on the day of his homecoming showed up at the port with balloons, flowers, cards, and a home made sign. I was a proud Navy wife. I even went as far as recreating our son's first birthday because he missed it. Later that evening I found out he cheated on me the entire time he was out to sea, and, he loved her and was leaving me. Since that day he has been out of both my life and our son's life. My son doesn't even know who his daddy is. To say that my life since my divorce has been easy would be a lie. I definately won't say it's been all bad; but, there are good days, and there are bad days. It did inspire me to better myself though. I'm now in Medical Assisting school. It has inspired me to create a stable life and environment for my son and I. The negative aspects though have been figuring out how to live on a single income, as well as the dating scene...that's definately been interesting to say the least.
2007-03-30 08:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by Maxine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was lonely at first and very difficult because I was suddenly a single mom. Money was very tight and he didn't help at all. My son and I had to use the welfare system for a while so I could get on my feet and continue to support my son. Lots of things we didn't get to do when he was young because we were always strapped for money.
After several years, I met a wonderful man and we've been married now for 20 years.
2007-03-30 09:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyday it is a diffrent emotion. I think I would be better if I did not have children & have to deal with him on a regular basis. Most days im really relieved, happy & content. Others I want my family back...Not necessarily because I want him back, but because I dont want another woman in my kids life & I dont want to be the other woman in someone elses kids life & at my age its rare to find someone without children
2007-03-30 10:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by Soccermom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has its good days and bad. Mostly good though! It gets tough when I have to see him because of our children. I look at him sometimes and think "What happened..."
Then other times, I see him and think "Thank goodness I am out of that mess."
But overall I am much happier and feel freedom I never had before.
He and I have been divorced for 4 years now.
2007-03-30 08:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My divorce won't be final for another 60 days, but since he left I feel free and happy! I saw a friend in the grocery store one day and she said, "You look wonderfully happy. What's going on?" That was all I needed to know to be sure that divorce was for me!!!
2007-03-30 08:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by Libby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after my second divorce, my life has reached a calm almost unheard of, unbelievable at times,, I have dated a few nice woman, a few psycho woman and have a companion, friend lover at the moment, but if it doesn't work out,, oh well, Still alot better than living with a drunk wife and a crack head son of hers..
2007-03-30 09:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a little promiscous at first...my motto was " Thanks, I'll call you" I tried to run from any serious relationship until I met my honey who saw through all of it....I am working on my second and last marriage
2007-03-30 08:38:35 · answer #10 · answered by PRETTY N PINK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋