I grew up with a girl my age living next door to me. We were friends but never anything more. I think both of us were attracted to each other and would have liked to tried the boyfriend/girlfriend thing but it just never happend. We lived by each other from 1st through 12 grade. I am now 34 and married for 12 years. I have 3 kids. I am happy and do not find it a problem to stay faithfull to my wife. The one person in the world that I think about sometimes and could not say for sure I could turn down a night with is this "girl next door" I have not even seen her in 5 years. It is certanly not an obsession I just think of her from time to time. Is it common to have fond feelings for a person from your childhood? Does anyone esle have a "girl/boy next door that you think of from time to time?
2007-03-30 07:10:24 · 10 answers · asked by Brian 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, she did not live right next door to me but we did go to school together from 1st to 12th and we still know where each other is all the time and how each other are doing with our lives. She is married and happy and so am I but we have never lost thoughts of each other! I even had to write to her to let her know where I was when I was in the Military after High School. We have each other to talk to on here also. This is just one girl who has been a friend all my life and will always be. I still live here in our hometown and I often drive by to see the house that she grew up in. She lives in Flordia now and I am still home in Michigan so I must keep her informed of our area of childhood!!
2007-03-30 07:39:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have to say it's completely normal to have feelings like that. everyone has those "coulda, shoulda, woulda" thoughts. i am not married but am in a committed relationship. a married friend of mine and i were discussing having "crushes" even though you are in a relationship. we both felt it's common to still see something that peaks your interest and attracts you to someone else other than your significant other. great friendships come out of this. as long as the crush is not acted upon or interfereing with your relationship, they are harmless. if you are worried you wouldn't be able to turn down the girl next door, i would definately avoid tempting fate and would leave it as simply a dream.
as a side note- my boyfirend wasn't the boy next door but we were friends for years and when we were apart, he was the guy i always thought about. we're finally together and couldn't be happier. we were both single though. i'm not encouraging anything, i'm just saying is all. :)
2007-03-30 14:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by royalldybg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, it happens. Just make sure that she doesn't get in between you and your wife. Unfortunately, you got married at a young age when you obviously had feelings for someone else. You now have a responsibility to your 3 kids - don't let them live their lives without both of their parents living happily in the same house.
2007-03-30 14:14:44 · answer #3 · answered by ropman1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ahh... the next door problem. MOVE ON. That was then, this is now. You have a great wife, three kids, and perhaps a nice budget, so why would you need this next-door-girl?
2007-03-30 14:21:28 · answer #4 · answered by Saby 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I married my childhood friend! We were friends for years first! I never think of any other childhhood friends, though. We've been happily married for 16 yrs.
2007-03-30 14:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
because now a days ur thinking about of ur self.ur giving her important.thats way.may be she was not thinking ?like ur thinking of her self.if ur thinking ?thats natural feeling.?thats ok...its human nature he miss that things which he can't get.if ur happy u have kids ..beautiful wife .take care good bless u.just don't gave important to this imagination.god bless u.
2007-03-30 14:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, same to me ,but now we meet 2,3 months later, she is in trouble but she never tell me,i did her help by outer friend,she is also busy in her family life,when i saw her i can't sleep that night, that 15 days hard for me,after that i m going busy.
2007-03-30 14:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by Hot man 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, i think its just natural for humans to think about the "whatif" factor and to want to know what she looks like now. but better not to try and find her now.
2007-03-30 14:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, once in a while. But I've moved on.
2007-03-30 14:13:14 · answer #9 · answered by insideout72 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. I do think of my very first love on occasion.
2007-03-30 14:16:34 · answer #10 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋