further to my previous question i recently found out i was pregnant, this wasnt planned and i was very scared of telling my familly. now they know because i had to tell them as i want to keep the baby, they took it so bad as i thought they would. so now they are basically blackmailing me into getting rid of the baby and stay or if i keep it ive been told to leave. the babys father doesnt want to know and only a good friend has offered to help me out with accomodation but this is so bad. i dont know what to do next fo the sake of my baby
2007-03-30 06:44:34 · 21 answers · asked by flowerchild 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
sorry i am 18
2007-03-30 06:59:27 · update #1
First of all please do not listen to them insensitive b****** who tell you to get rid of your baby.
Im pregnant, and im 18, fortunatly my boyfriend has stuck around, however i have many friends who have not, they have managed just fine, it will be hard for you no doubt about that, but your poor little baby shouldnt suffer, if you do decide that you think an abortion would be for the best, please look into what they do to the unborn baby, Ive had an abortion as i though i was too young, I cant begin to explain how bad i felt for it, and no doubt you will too. Abortions are easier said than done. Please think carefully, your family should come round to it in the end once they see your little one, and if not, what do you need a family that do not want to support you? Good luck hun xx
2007-03-30 09:07:29 · answer #1 · answered by Mumof THREE!!! <3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, keep the baby. i thought about abortion with my first child - i was in college, living in a dorm and my parent's house. i didn't know what to do. my boyfriend was going through a divorce and didn't want the child either. but i stood my ground. everything ended up being great. i had to quit school and still haven't managed to go back after three years, but i wouldn't trade my daughter for anything in the world. bringing a life into this world is one of the greatest gifts ever, no matter how bad it seems right now. everything will be ok. if you need help with insurance, go to the local health and human services and they will tell you how to apply for medicaid. i would get a job and start putting every penny back. take your friend's offer, apparently they really care about you. but this is a decision that you have to make and live with. it's not any one else's. good luck. and congratulations on the baby!!!!
2007-03-30 06:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. There is always a way and if your family won't help then go stay with your friend and find out exactly what is available to you. You don't say where you live so it's a bit hard to give specific advise, but your mental health and safety are the most important thing to consider. Sometimes a close friend is better than your family. As long as you have one person on your side your not alone and from everyone's answers you have a lot of people out here in cyber space who care and believe you can do it. If we don't know you and still believe in you then maybe you can believe in yourself?
2007-03-30 13:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by Lostlove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know a good church, call the office and ask to speak to a pastor. I would also encourage you to find a home for unwed mothers that will support you until have the baby. I know there in some in the area I live and they are usually run by Christians that truly care for both the mother and the baby. You don't say how old you are, but you are going want to be careful that whoever you go to has BOTH yours and the baby's best interest in mind. Start with your friend who has offered their help. God Bless!
2007-03-30 06:58:30 · answer #4 · answered by asldfkjdfj 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to keep the baby you should, dont ever do anything you dont want. If you give up the baby when it wasnt your decision you will regret it for years to come. So do what you feel is best and you will be fine, there are tons of single moms who have wonderful lives. Plus when they hold that new baby, your parents will probably come around. Good luck, babies are such a joy!
2007-03-30 07:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by *Heather* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi hun really sorry 2 hear ur family are not supportin u. u r 18 years od have a mind of ur own n a life in ur belly, ur a adult now u seek help from ur midwife she wil give u all the details u need in what ever u want 2 do. i am 19 and on my second pregnancy u do what u want i did n iv never been happier, u make ur choice dont let any1 push u in 2 anythin coz its u who has 2 live with it. good luck x
2007-03-30 07:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The life of the baby is far more important than your family and friends. Go to your local medacaid or childrens services they should be able to help you out. They can get you a place to stay while pregnant, coverage for your pregnancy (healthcare, hospital, etc) even a job if you don't have one. Best of luck to you and your child, maybe someday your family can see what a great joy the child is. May God Bless you both.
2007-03-30 06:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
babe this must be hard for you , you have to do what is best for you i would take you friends offer to have some where to leave for the moment and then go and see the council or local housing authority if you friend gave you a letter saying that she needs you out (saying she is chucking you out of the house) the council will help you and provide you with somewhere nut p[lease check information cause i might be wrong but i am sure the council or local housing authority will help.I feel you family is wrong to say this and it must be so hard for you because you must want support not this.Well all the very best hope things work out for you take care xx
2007-03-30 07:59:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, you need to think seriously about whether or not you are strong enough to bring up a child, they are fantastic, but they are very hard work, i am 37 and have 2, i do not think i could have handled having them at a young age, i was 27 before we had our first. my ex wife had an abortion which was mine when she was 22, i have regretted it since, but i believe it was the best thing under the circumstances. your family are only acting like this because they have dreams for you and want you to have a good life, with everything you want, however it is your life and we each have to find our own way. i also believe it is better to have 2 parents, imagine in 18 years down the line, if this child decides to find its father, and got rebuked,as he does not want to know, that would be soul destroying for him / her. think very carefully before you decide, it is a lifetime decision!.
Take care
2007-03-30 06:54:09 · answer #9 · answered by brommas 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents have no right to manipulate you in this way. If you want to keep the baby it is your decision and yours alone.
I do not see much love for you coming from your parents and my advice would be to get all the help you can from your friends and any other family members who can help. Things happen in life that we often do not like, but we support and love our children in all that they do, and help them through the hard times. I hope all goes well for you.
2007-03-30 06:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by Spiny Norman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋