2007-03-30 06:34:57 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
honesty, love, trust, faith, putting your spouse before you
gw
2007-03-30 06:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by georgewallace78 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a lot of compromise and love, a whole lot of trust, honesty, and unbelievable sex! If u guys can compromise on the little things that make u argue, if both are honest towards each other, and show and say how much they love each other, the great sex will follow. It will be so good that he knows he won't get it that good anywhere else. But if u lack the above-mentioned qualities such as trust, honesty, love, and compromise, sex might not even be an option. The reason i say this is because there are so many ppl out there that believe that even if nothing else is working out, great sex will keep the marriage strong. Yes, sexual activity is a staple element in marriage, but it requires your body, mind,and soul to be in harmony together. If it's just your body that feels good, that's when it becomes that "wham, bam, thank u maam" theory. Women, especially, need their mind to enjoy sex, and it's when they don't get that fulfillment that they may venture out and find someone else who can "harmonize" it for them.
So, take ur time,get to know each other,give in a little, take out a little, love and trust each other, and you will be able to know the instant he or she is lying or being dishonest. You can almost hear the skipped beat in their air they breathe out, the way they look (or not look) into your eyes. Trust me, you will know. And pray alot!!!! Good marriages require a lot of prayer. Afterall, He's the One who married you in Heaven.
I hope this helps, and much luck in your future!
2007-03-30 06:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by lilly_of_the_valley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 4 years and my husband and I are both very happy. From our experience, and the experience of those around us, I would say that the main factor we can attribute our happiness to (besides the grace of the Lord) is preparation. We courted instead of dating with the goal of marriage, we share the same basic beliefs, and we discussed whether or not we could make a marriage work in detail. For example I am now working to support him in finishing he PhD and waiting to have children. Although I would like to have children now, I know how important his degree is to him, just as he knows that when we have children I want to stay home with them. We had an approximate time table and financial outlook before getting married which allowed us to each make an informed decision, and it helped to prevent the major fights that many couples have.
2007-03-30 06:44:25 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy of 1.5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've been happily married 36 years, and I guarantee you, some of the key elements of a successful relationship - married or otherwise - are:
1) A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests and separate groups of friends.
2) A lot of tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.
3) A sense of compromise; so that you can work out your problems with a minimum of emotional trauma. It's marital negotiation.
4) A sense of sympathy and forgiveness. You're both going to screw up on occasion. You need to be able to forgive, forget, and move on with the relationship.
2007-03-30 08:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication. Everything from trust to the greatest sex of your life in a marriage come out of communication. Without it, notice how quickly the love fades. Notice that trust is replaced with suspicion. Even sex becomes a chore without communication. So if you want a happy marriage, keep talking.
2007-03-30 06:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being UNCONDITIONAL, within reason. Use this logic and things should be fine.
Every time you two go to bed the honeymoon is over and each morning when you wake up the honeymoon begins all over again, meaning whatever happened the day before is in the past and should stay in the past. Looking to the future and both setting goals on what the future may hold and hold on.
2007-03-30 06:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SEX, trust, love and compliments, honesty, never having any secrets, the ability to cry on ones shoulders. i try to remind my husband that a piece of paper didnt make us the couple we are, our hearts did. if he is being an @ss (we all have our days) i threaten to get our marriage license down and beat some sense in him with it. yes i put sex #1 bc its our fav thing. i thought it held us together until i had surgery, then a car accident and we went almost 3 months without any.
2007-03-30 10:52:17 · answer #7 · answered by iwill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learning as much about a person as you can before making a committment. As a result, you will develop and underrstand of each other -- likes, wants, desires, etc.
Well, at least thats the way I see it. I know its not overly abstract but I like to think things this way ;)
2007-03-30 06:39:30 · answer #8 · answered by rosie768 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Conversation
Touch
Delicious Meals
Sharing
If anyone is missing any of these things, it will be harder to repair!
2007-03-30 06:54:31 · answer #9 · answered by ♫ Melody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having mutual respect for one another.....
not letting the fun stuff die down, like roses, dinner dates, saying "You're handsome" or " you're pretty"....
letting a person have some freedom
trust that goes both ways.....
2007-03-30 06:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honest,open mind,love,moral values(shared),working together,talking,spice.
2007-03-30 06:38:25 · answer #11 · answered by keithleyjustin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋