this gf of mine keeps talking about marriage
and it told her there is almost no chance of us getting married.
yet she insists there is a way.
i like going out with her on dates, making out etc
but i know i won't get married to her...
i'm leaving the country in 2 months for permanent wrk..
should i still go out with her..shes alot of fun..??
2007-03-30 06:04:42 · 17 answers · asked by canuckclint 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please be honest with her! I know that sex, when you know there won't be commitment, is a temptation - but don't lead her own. Just tell her you're leaving and you don't want marriage.
Give her the option to continue to date until you leave (hey, she may be up for it!). If she says no, let her move on. She deserves the truth from you.
2007-03-30 06:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really not want marriage or are you concerned about the distance and change in life circumstances? Because "almost no chance of us getting married," should be "I'm not ready to get married" or "I want to marry you, but I don't know if our timing will work out" (depending on your true feelings). You've got to give crystal clear answers with some people, because if you don't she could just imagine that you said exactly what she wanted you to say.
If your girl knows that you feel that way about it and she insists that you are still going to get married, you might want to end it now and try to head off the emotional thunderstorm that may be brewing.
On the other hand, if you think she is totally sane and you want to be with her while you are still around, a few less than subtle hints that you are not interested in a permanent relationship might be a good move on your part.
2007-03-30 06:19:55 · answer #2 · answered by Manda B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-03 00:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know you are leaving (she knows, right? Or she should) and that you have no intentions of getting married, but you would still like to continue seeing her. Then it will be her decision.
2007-03-30 06:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can if you want, but if you have no future with her what is the point really? Thats kind of scary, arent you worried she might try to trap you somehow? Get out now and find another fun one!
2007-03-30 06:13:39 · answer #5 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should go out with her. Even though you've made your intentions clear, her intentions are clear also...she wants much more than you can give her. She will only get more attached to you and then she will be heartbroken when you leave.
2007-03-30 06:17:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you respect or care for her in anyway, you will end this relationship NOW. She wont understand but if you know you are leaving and never coming back, she needs to accept this NOW. Good luck
2007-03-30 06:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as if you have been pretty honest with her that you want no part of marriage. If she still stays around you its quite remarkable. It doesnt seem like you are leading her on so i would stick with it till further notice.
2007-03-30 06:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with her. Just make sure she understands no marriage!
2007-03-30 06:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, keep having fun with her, as long as you have
told her the truth about your plans..
2007-03-30 06:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋