ok my husband has this friend and we are friends too......... and i am starting to like him...... if we had an affair you think i could live with myself?
2007-03-30 05:52:41 · 30 answers · asked by rockerad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO..do not do anything with anyone you are married....if you do not want to be married and be a wife to him then divorce him then sleep with whoever you want to.......it is a SIN
2007-03-30 05:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you have started a relationship with him,then that means you two are in the same boat. Physical and emotional attraction can be overpowered if you sit and think whats gonna happen if things get outta your control. So be cool, concentrate on the other aspects of life, keep yourself busy with other things,forget that affair and save your life( May be your husband's too),
2007-03-30 06:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With his alleged friend???
With someone else can maybe be a fling just for fun. With a supposed friend makes you both traitors to him.
He trusts you to be on his side and cover his back, and that's the same thing he expects from his friends. If his friend is hitting on you you must let him know immediately. Guys can respect enemies, but there is nothing a guy hates more than a back stabbing traitor.
The question isn't if you can live with yourself, the question should be will your husband be able to live with you. After you take sides with a phony friend against him, the answer will almost certainly be no.
2007-03-30 06:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by Duck in the woods 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you know that answer but the answer should be first posed as a question, "Would you like it if your husband had an affair with your friend?"
2007-03-30 06:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by Frankee06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer in your heart. Either your too immature and selfish to be married, or there are problems in the marriage and your considering an affair is a cry for help. Either way you need to figure out what's wrong and deal with it.
2007-03-30 06:00:44 · answer #5 · answered by Poochie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly if your even contemplating an affair, just go get a divorce first before causing major drama between you and your husband and his friend... be honest with yourself and him
2007-03-30 06:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the better question would be... Could you live by yourself? If you have an affair, plan on being divorced like the dirty little ho you would be and then you will not only have to live with yourself, but by yourself.
2007-03-30 06:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you could not. The guilt would tear you up, you will want to tell your husband to make yourself feel better, which will just totally hurt him, and your marriage will be over. Stay away from the friend. Believe me, it's best for all those involved.
2007-03-30 06:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i don't think you could live with it. If you love your husband, don't have an affair. If you don't love him, divorce. Do NOT have an affair, it wouldn't stay secert for long if this guy is his friend.
2007-03-30 05:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by brybry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the very short term you'll be happy but long term you'll wreck your marriage and this friendship he has with the friend.
Put the shoe on the other foot, if you had a friend and your husband were to bed her, would you be happy or feeling betrayed?
2007-03-30 06:05:11 · answer #10 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once u have a husband,u cant go around other guys because a husband is the person that u promise 2 be with forever and a true lover,looks like your gonna regret your life
2007-03-30 05:58:35 · answer #11 · answered by elsa brittany 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋