For example finding something in his pocket or on his phone and not having enough courage to ask what its about?Do you still think about it?
2007-03-30 05:48:04 · 10 answers · asked by odd socks 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
how long have you got? i cant keep track of the amount of times something has stuck in my mind and it doesnt seem to matter how i approach it, it just never get gets talked about. i know you are supposed to "sit down and confront" and all that but sometimes it isnt as straight forward as all that and seems easier to let it go. next thing you know it has grown into some great big thing that you just cant get out of your head. Trust me, if i had the chance to just blurt it all out with there being no aftermath i would. and every time i tell myself "next time i'll just come out and say it.." but it never seems to happen. welcome to my world sweetheart. believe me, i know where you are coming from! x
2007-03-30 11:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like it when customers give him gifts at christmas; he works in a post office. I found a pair of very expensive trainers in a bag on his side of the bed last year; I wasn't looking- just doing a tidy-up. He is NOT a trainer guy; his shoe style is very conservative, and he would not be seen dead in trainers. I wondered who they were from; there was a christmas card inside the bag too, already opened and lying loose; to him from "Margaret". I was a bit scared to ask who Margaret was. I left the bag where it was, and the next day it had disappeared.
It bugged me though. Very casually, I said to him; where did you get the trendy trainers I saw in the bag beside the bed?
He got a bit flustered; said"they're from a nice lady, very elderly, who appreciates good service."
I didn't pursue it, maybe I should have.I knew they were NOT from an elderly lady....after that, he changed his working hours, he said, so he could spend more time with me. He started going to work earlier, and finishing much earlier; some evenings, he's home before I am. Very nice to have him around all right...but I'm still wondering; did I catch him when he was just about to "do" something, or did I jerk his conscience enough to stop what he may have already started; yes, I stll think about it. He's generally trustworthy, and he can't lie very well;he's quite honest in fact.
But I just wonder....
2007-03-30 06:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This raises a lot of red flags for me. Just how were these things discovered? Did you go poking around looking for infidelities? If so, there are trust issues here. Also, if you haven't confronted him, then the lines of communication aren't open between you two. And third, if you're talking about not having enough "courage" to confront him, are you afraid of him?
2007-03-30 05:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by geehaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I do, but I remember a COUPLE of things that I have done that he doesn't know about and will NEVER know about that I've done in the past, and I dismiss it. If it happens to be really SERIOUS however, I ignore my rapid-beating heart, and confront him. It's no fun thinking that you could be being cheated on, even though you know any man would be a LUCKY SON OF A GUN to have you!
2007-03-30 06:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, YES,
My Husband was cheating on me and I didn't see the signs,to busy working and running our home life, to notice, what was in front off my very eye's,so when he did actually tell me,I crumbled, then threw him out,it's only now with hind sight, that I see every LITTLE detail,now HATE him with a passion.
Thing is, I now want to tell him everything that I now see and it's like, he left me in mid sentence and there is no point going over old ground, so I just sit and Seth
Hell has no fury like a women scorned lol.
2007-03-30 06:56:53 · answer #5 · answered by live life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best relationship advice I've ever heard is :
"Without trust, there is no understanding. Without understanding, there is just an endless stream of questions."
If you don't trust him, you will never be at peace.
2007-03-30 05:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I ask about it because if I dont then it will bother me and if he dosent answer like I think he does then I keep looking into it.
2007-03-30 05:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by Cha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I'm one of those who will ask about it. I don't see any reason to be scared to ask and agonize over something; you know? Once it's resolved, then it's over with =)
2007-03-30 05:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, I'm still on the process of the situation....and yes i still think about it......I already confront him.....now...i decided to give him back to his parents.
2007-03-30 06:08:50 · answer #9 · answered by sonette 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i will confront him or else it will bother me.
2007-03-30 06:19:05 · answer #10 · answered by jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋