I wonder because I know a couple that went to a counselor and it seemed to make their marriage worse because they found out the counselor was a big hypocrite and didn't practice what he preached.
2007-03-30 05:28:33 · 6 answers · asked by JustWondering 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think in most cases it's a good thing, but not always
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2007-03-30 05:55:29 · answer #1 · answered by georgewallace78 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the people involved. The couple has to be open to learning. If one or both go in with the attitude that this won't work, it most likely won't. But if they go in willing to work on their marriage it has a good chance of helping.
But the counselor has to be good, too. I'd want to know the counselor's record with couples before I hired him. How many did he help stay together and how many split up. If the divorce rate among his clients is significantly higher than the national average I'd be concerned about going to him. A little higher and I wouldn't be so worried because it's people in trouble who look for help.
And even if the counselor in your friend's case was a hypocrite they could have learned from him. Sometimes it helps to see what NOT to do as much as to be told what TO do.
2007-03-30 13:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
going for counseling is no use if one party is still not accepting any mistake. they will just argue in front of the counselor. If couples want to work out their marriage it should be only between them,they should settle down. it will even save their money in paying the counselor. I'm on negative side.
2007-03-30 12:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by sonette 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have found it to be a worthless thing to do. I don't know anyone who was happy or made their marriage work from counseling. Sometimes the people would get back together to try to work things out, but even those cases failed in the end. It's a waste of effort, time and money.
2007-03-30 12:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oooo... I think councelling is a good thing if both people go into it with open minds. Also.... The councellor is just human, he is just giving advice, and they shouldnt really focus on his private life, but focus on his advice instead.
2007-03-30 12:41:53 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is useful if both parties are willing to cooperate and really want things to work
2007-03-30 12:58:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋