my parents want me to bethis good little mormon girl adn i dont agree with the religon but if i tell them i dont want to be mormon they will send me to a grouphome. im 16 and i dont want to wait till im 18 to be able to be who i am without getting in trouble
2007-03-30 05:26:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
another thing is taht im adopted and i dont kow if there is some legal thing that i can do or not.
2007-03-30 05:38:17 · update #1
It doesn't matter if you agree or disagree with your parent, you should still respect their opinion and their desire for you to be a certain way, especially if you're a minor. That doesn't mean that you can't be an individual and make your own choices. I would say this same thing no matter what religion someone was (or if they weren't). Parents only try to do what they think is best. I know this isn't the answer you want to hear, but it is the right way.
Now, that does not mean you can't sit down with them and tell them you would like to talk. Let them know you respect them, but that you believe differently. However, in order to do this, and have a respectful adult conversation, you must be educated and know why you believe the way you do and support your convictions. Most 16 year olds don't know what they believe or why they believe the way they do. When I was a teenager I was very honest and calm and could talk to my mother. I still tell her where I believe she is wrong, but always remind her that I respect her regardless of any disagreement. The Mormon faith teaches choice, and you will always have that, but without being fully educated you cannot make an adequately reasoned choice. If you respect your parents and are honest with them they will some day respect you (hopefully now, but everyone is different).
Bottom line, your young and your parents care. You have your whole life to make choices so there is no rush to jump the gun. Good luck.
2007-03-30 09:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by straightup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, the traumas of youth.
As long as you live in their home, and as long as they are your parents, obedience and respect are the order of the day.
Although you may not want to abide by your Mormon upbringing, at the ripe old age of 16, you truly don't have free reign over your life.
Your options: voluntarily move out, confront them about your rejection of the Mormon religion and accept the consequences, play along with it until you are 18 and are legal age and move out and make your own way.
2007-03-30 05:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by Carol D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't stick it out for another year or so? It's not that long to wait till you're 18. Believe me, it's gone before you know it.
2007-03-31 20:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by mormon_4_jesus 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to them hon. They know things that you don't (even though you believe you know more).
Wait until you are 21 to consider changing your religion. At your age, you lack the intellectual maturity to decide on your identity. This is not what you wanted to hear, but trust me.
2007-03-30 05:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by Buck Boy 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
there's really not much you can do until you're 18 or accept being sent away. it stinks but you're not an adult til your 18 in the US
2007-03-30 05:30:19 · answer #5 · answered by JM 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have to =/ sorry and yes that religion is wrong
2007-03-30 05:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋