Your views on girl power and the new woman era.?

Question

Kids,school run, full time job,shopping,cleaning, cooking, laundry,gardening,DIY,decorating, role play Superwoman/Suzie Wong.
Busy ,tired, stressed I don't remember our mothers leading such hectic lives.I don't remember them complaining either.

Answer 1

My mother raised me solo with all the stressors you listed and I couldn't have asked for a better example. I'm a single father with sole custody of two kids and if I wasn't raised by a great lady from the "Women Era with Girl Power" I wouldn't be who and what I am today. Sometimes it takes a women to make a man out of someone, you strong ladies please keep up the exceptional work- I thank you all.

Answer 2

Women fought hard for equality.. which is a good thing, don't get me wrong....

However it backfired. We now are saddled with full time jobs instead of our primary role being "Suzie homemaker" and we have to do it all because the men still view us as "Suzie homemaker" and we need to have full time jobs to boot.

We are busy and stressed out.. totally... Men are getting lazier because women are doing more, etc. It is unfair and wrong...

Our parents were not this busy, because that was a while ago and things change. Kids are busier, involved in more activities. Women are doing the mens jobs and men are not doing so much of the womens and everyone has to work because the economy dictates that.

I would love to bake cookies, cook meals and clean... that would be like a vacation!

Also when complaining realize that we did ask for this. We wanted to have full time jobs and all the rights men have. Now we have to and also be women on top of it.. We kind of did this to ourselves.

It is better than the alternative. I cannot imagine be a subservient wife. Then again things were much simpler back then.

Sometimes be careful what you wish for... talk about a catch 22.

Obviously the men missed the boat on what exactly EQUAL meant. 50-50 is equal.. they need to step up to the plate and do some of the womens jobs to help out!

Answer 3

I don't recognise my life in your question at all.

Yes I work, so does my partner. Some times we work more than 50 hours a week. We share the housework, he tends to vacuum and wash up, I do the cooking, the shopping and the dusting. The laundry is more or less shared. We don't have kids though. My mother worked and brought up two kids and looked after all the domestic stuff and she complained.

What 'feminism' has done for me is to allow me to define my own role in life. I was able to leave a rubbish husband (something women could not do until the 1950s in the UK), I have been able to overcome my biology and say that even though I am female I have no wish to be a mother, I have been able to work in a male oriented career (chef) and gain the respect of the male crews I work with as well as being able to demand equal pay for the job (1970s legislation in the UK) and it means I feel able to own my sexaulity for myself - I can remember a time when female orgasms were something only speculated about or that 'nice girls' didn't have cos that meant you were a nymphomaniac - there were articles in cosmo assuring girls it was OK to come - sex is not my 'conjugal duty' it is a way of expressing my love for my partner.

Thank you to all those women who fought so hard to give us what so many people now want to give up - choice!

Answer 4

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Answer 5

I see girl power, I have experienced so called girl power, but it don't mean to say I like it. On the contrary, I was born in an era when women were still put on a pedestal: Men opened doors for them, pulled out chairs, offered to carry shopping, always let women go first, offered up their seats on buses and such like. Women weren't expected to go to work or be career women but at the same time they could be if they wanted. On the whole, men treated women with respect and they were appreciated for the role they played in the home. Moreover, behind every good man there was always a very good woman, encouraging and pushing him every step of the way. There has always been the exception to that rule, like the battered wife for instance, but girl power hasn't changed any of that, in fact it's got worse, regardless of all the domestic violence legislation that has come into force over the last decade or so. So you ask me about girl power and I'll say thhhhhhhhhhhhhh, with bells on.

Answer 6

i agree. i believe that since the women's lib movement women have been working harder than ever! more is also expected of us. men in fact, seem to be attracted to women who can have a career and successfully balance that with a family, housework, a good wife, and good mom. we are not equal to men. we are still doing most all of the domestic work (in most cases this is in addition to a 40 hr + work week)
those women who stay at home (because of society) feel like something is wrong with them for doing so. they feel inferior to working moms, and often do not feel 100% like a responsible adult.
is there a solution? i think society needs to change it's views on women one family at a time.
you might try
1. talking to your husband, and older children about splitting up some of the household responsibilities
2. do not spend every evening and weekend being a taxi, maid, and sex slave - let everyone in advance know that once in a while you will do something for yourself too. such as, next Sat. afternoon i will be going to coffee with my friends
3.find ways to relax and destress at the same time every day. find 30 mins to have quiet. make your commute a time to relax by listening to relaxing music and shutting off the cell. take a bubble bath in the evening. sit on the porch and sip herbal tea. take lunches by yourself for yourself (not to gossip about work, or hit walmart real quick)
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Answer 7

I think that its good that women can choose to do whatever they want, whether its a career, or being a stay at home mom, etc.

I think its unfortunate that most women with kids seem to feel guilty no matter which they choose, that they are 'losers' if they don't have a career, that they are 'abandonning their children' if they go to work. My wife, my sister, my cousins, I see all of them wrestling with what to do, and none of them seem confident in their choices.

As to housework/cooking, it seems reasonably divided, though not 50/50. I doubt it will ever be 50/50 in most households, because most men don't care. When you say 50/50, who defines what needs to be done? If your spouse says the entire house needs to be vacuumed every day, do they have a right to insist that you're failing them if you don't vacuum every other day?

I see a lot of women who confuse what they _want_ to be done with what _needs_ to be done. Everything they want is a 'need'. Then they are angry that other people don't help them with all these needs. Meanwhile, everything other people want is a low priority.

Answer 8

hahah... I blame everything on the cell phone era and cable tv! Everyone needs to know everything about everyone else, and NEEDS TO KNOW NOW! Not too long ago, when families didnt have cell phones, we trusted that they were going where they said they were, and we didnt bother with trying to HUNT THEM DOWN like animals. So instead of worrying what so and so is doing right now, we worked, took care of kids, made dinner, and accomplished much more. Now, you see wives or girlfriends FREAKING OUT if they cant contact their other IMMEDIATLY, or you see them lounging around watching their SOAPS or movies and not doing anything else. Yet another reason for obesity but not the subject. Everything has been so commercialized as FASTER and BETTER... I dont think anything really got better...I think that its just assumed BETTER because its faster, when we were really ok with slow before. Idk... Just a thought I've been thinkin! Have a great day!

Answer 9

Maybe I'm not qualified to comment but my take on women trying to be EVERYTHING at all times (housewife, mother, career woman, Cub Scout leader, volunteering at the church, etc) is impossible. Contrary to what the media would have everyone beleive, a woman cannot do it all and be good at it all. It's just not possible. Something has to suffer.

That doesn't make a woman a bad person, it's just the way it is.

Answer 10

You sound like the kid who wants to be involved in 15 million activities and then a parent says, "Sorry, you do not have time for this."

If you have a family, you made a commitment to them (him). So you need to live up to it. Then start picking and choosing. I think your choices need to be selected based on what you know to be best for the family. Unless I am wrong, you made vows to do so.

I do think the advice of involving your hubby in things like transporting kids, shopping and cleaning and anything else he is capable of is absolutely necessary...even if you cut back on your own activities.