This is probably a silly question, but i just want others opinons on the situation...
BF and I have been together 2 yrs, living together 9mo's, 23 and 24yrs old, very committed, talked marriage&kids, have 2 dogs together, joint checking accts...all that stuff. ANYWAYS,
Last night we are laying in bed about to go to sleep& he is talking about our future,how he always dreams of our first house&having children,all the things to come. And I say "you forgot something there" & he goes "oh, Marriage?" &then says...
I want to marry you babe, I love you, I want you in my life forever. I wish I could afford the ring I want to get, but I was thinking that maybe I could just get something for right now, and then get something better in the future when we can afford it- like my parents did" (his dad gave mom HUGE ring for xmas after 30yrs of her smaller ring)
I have told him over and over it is not the size of the diamond, it is what it stands for, and...
2007-03-30 05:00:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that it is the fact that he picked this ring out especially for me to show his love and committment for me, he says he knows, he just wants everything to be picture perfect.
So, after that I mentioned we could look at jewlery stores this weekend, then we just said I love you's and went to bed...was I supposed to say anything further? This wasn't his proposal was it? I thought it was just a conversation....lol, just wanted to see what others thought, thanks!!
2007-03-30 05:01:54 · update #1
knowing him...im assuming just a conversation, just because he has always said how he wants to think of the perfect romantic way to propose...and thaaat wasn't really it, haha. We have a great relationship...love him! :-) <3
2007-03-30 05:07:50 · update #2
Yeah, it sounds like just a conversation. It's really cool that you two can talk about stuff like that without worrying about scaring the other off. But I would just let it wait until he does it for real. It sounds like he wants it to be special, so let him do it his way.
2007-03-30 05:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by Revelation S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't seem like a proposal to me, but I'm in the same boat with my fiancee. I know if she's already my fiancee how is it the same right? Well I am a college student whom only works during the summer months and don't have a lot of money. So i bought her a promise ring, proposed, and said before we get married I will buy you a real ring. Also her family is very Catholic and I'm supposed to ask her father before her. So I've looked for rings in Jewelry stores and, yes, they are insanely expensive. I want the best for her, I know she likes platinum and wants a round diamond stone and I want it to be at least a carat. So my advice for you is to show your BF these three websites for very nice rings but not as expensive as in stores diamonds.com and bluenile.com are both places you can make your own ring. JTV.com is a place where you might find the occasional ring for cheaper than a store + free shipping and money back guarantee. I wish you all the luck I'm sure when he proposes it will be very special with a ring, rather than the two of you laying in bed! Good-luck!
2007-03-30 05:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a man....they are not built like us...we want..need communication....words....actions....he sounds to me like he is going to marry you and yes it is a proposal....lol...sounds so cute...I think it would be ok for you to plan a romantic dinner out and you get him a ring and propose to him....see what happens...just a band...nothing expensive.....incase.....too the norm is to be engaged within 2 yrs..and have a wedding date set and wedding plans being made....I read alot of relationship books..lol...and the longer a woman is with a man with out that the better the changes are for a divorce that is IF he marries you..some men talk the talk but do not walk the walk because they have their cake and eat it too...and why buy the cow when you get the milk for free.....just some thought.....good luck to you.....
2007-03-30 05:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's already made up his mind to marry you. Us guys are weird in how we communicate. When I proposed to my wife I asked her "what are you doing for the next 50 or 60 years?". Not the most romantic proposal I've heard of, but it was the best I could come up with at that moment.
2007-03-30 05:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by bugs280 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not a proposal but his way of letting you know he wants to be with you in a marriage and have a family. if you truly love him marry him, some people propose cause its the romantic thing to do others just talk about and say were gonna do it and do it.
2007-03-30 05:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by Sparky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like mine and my boyfriends conversations at night...No it;s not a proposal..When nit is ready he will do it..and like you said, it;s not the size of the dimond it's what it stands for..and now that he knows that...LOOK OUT! He knows now that you are willing to take anything!
Good luck Hun!
P.S. My boyfriend has yet to propose to me...4 years and been living together for 2....So it must be a guy thing:)
2007-03-30 05:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by acoats2006 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he really does want to marry you, but I wouldn't press the issue of ring shopping with him. If he is serious about marriage he will either shop for a ring himself to surprise you, or he will ask you to go ring shopping with him. I would definitely not push the issue. He knows how you feel know and now it is his move.
2007-03-30 05:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a conversation but a really good one! Until he says "will you marry me" and you get to say YES, then it becomes official. Sounds like it's right around the corner though! Congrats!
2007-03-30 05:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awwww.... CONGRATS! True love is so hard to find. Sounds like you have a keeper. I wouldnt say that this was his proposal, more like his way of communicating what he wants to happen. I say wait for him to mention looking at rings. Im sure he will!!! Again... CONGRATS!!!
2007-03-30 05:18:05 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it wasn't a proposal. Sounds like you two were just having a superamazing conversation! Just wait, don't ask...
2007-03-30 05:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋