2007-03-30 04:20:28 · 23 answers · asked by Giggly Giraffe 7 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Be patient
Find a good Husband
and do it right.
2007-04-01 04:38:49 · answer #1 · answered by smially 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask a 17 year old GIRL why it is that she wants chaos in her life. At that age, assuming her relationship is with someone who is near her age, relationships are very fragile and will continue to be so for five years or more. The father of her child may not still be there in five years and that is extremely unfair for the child. Counseling should be sought now instead of in three years when the relationship is crumbling.
If there was anyway to control this individual there should be a couple exercises done before conception.
1. Financials- Have a job where she has full health insurance, have six months worth of savings in case the pregnancy goes bad and ends up being bedridden, have the means to pay for the lifestyle they are currently use to.
2. Marriage- Yes it is old fashioned, but kids raised in a stable family situation tend to do better academically, and professionally than those raised in one parent families.
3. Download Itunes, listen to all of the archived loveline shows and the child will get a better understanding of the social implications of children having children is.
4. Legally be able to drink in the United States.
2007-04-01 00:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by Benji Man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to wait till her body has matured. The girls body is still growing itself. If she becomes pregnant then the body that her body holds will draw all the nutrients, and sustenance away from her own. She needs all that she has for her own body to grow. If that is taken away from her then she will suffer the consequences down the road. Most commonly a ruined back by the time she is forty.
I had an argument back in the eighties with my brother about this. He maintained "if she's old enough to bleed, then she's old enough to breed" I said no! When the young girl starts menstruating it means her body has started the physical preparations for adulthood. That would be around the age of twenty one when she has fully matured physically. Key word here is ....physically.
It's true that she has the capabilities to bear children, it doesn't mean she is ready for it yet. Another four years is not a long time to wait for a healthy pregnancy.
That is what I would tell the young woman. She may be ready for it emotionally, and mentally, but her body isn't. Ask her to think it over the next four years, and if she still wants a baby then by all means.
2007-03-30 05:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by the old dog 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
wait, because i guarantee that you will view the world completely differetnly in five years. you may still want the baby, but your views on pretty much everything will change. having a baby is a permanent thing, and if, years, or maybe even months from now, you decide you dont want a baby, if you have already had it, then youre kinda up the creek
2007-03-30 07:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by andrew b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her she needs to let her body develop completely first, that would take some little time, but hopefully by then she won't have the idea anymore. We all know how stubborn we are at that age. Then comes the economic part, I would try to make her understand having ia baby is expensive and she can't afford it.
2007-03-30 05:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by User 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's SO hard to get a 17 year old "girl" to listen to anything that differs from what she wants to hear. I've been in those shoes, (the adult) and I did everything but chain her in a cage. I guess at this point in my life, I would sit with my head in my hands. And perhaps scream.
2007-03-30 05:35:10 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell ehr that financially she will be unprepared. And is doesn't want to be selfish, then she should not bring a child into this world that will not have the best life possible. Also, it would be unfair and selfish to not have a father for that child. Children do much better when they have both a mother and father. And tell her to get a puppy.
2007-03-30 05:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by nicoleblingy2003 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell her to 'borrow' a baby from a friend or relative for a long week-end. Then, with no help from mom, Dad or BF, she should be solely responsible for the child.
I'd also tell her that she has many years of fertility ahead of her, and only one Youth, so she should enjoy it.
Good luck
2007-03-30 05:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by Croa 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would say you need to wait!! Do you know how many teenage parents there are? Alot! and do you know their chances of being a happy family when they grow up? Slim!! You need to Wait for the right man at the right time and you need to both be able to love each other truly and deeply!! Most importantly, you need to think about the rest of your life before you make major changes today!!
2007-03-30 05:01:44 · answer #9 · answered by Morgan 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A baby is not a toy. With a baby comes great responsibilities, and I'm not just talking about chaning his diaper or feeding him.
What's more, she'll have plenty of time to have one later.
2007-03-30 05:02:26 · answer #10 · answered by Offkey 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
She's not a woman; she is legally and emotionally a little girl.
I'd tell her to grow up, first of all.
Second, I'd tell her that society (in general) is tired of supporting little girls (of any age) who think their whims to 'play mommie' should be financed by the public.
She can ruin her own life in innumerable ways without resorting to what amounts to child abuse by bringing yet another welfare baby into the world.
2007-03-30 05:05:12 · answer #11 · answered by Phil #3 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋