to a partner who has opposite tastes than me and also she has often caused humilations for me., our sex life had been zero.i dont feel any pain for her . but one n half years ago i fell into love with the girl of the same age as of my partner... . my girl friend gave me all the comfort and respect that i needed and accepted me as the person i am. my wife had even humilated me and this girl publicaly twice and i feel im under pressure from my wife... because she says she wont divorce me ever and from last six months i have been constantly having health problems of different nature like high BP etc.i was one time health freak.. on the other hand i have a son who is 4 and i feel im responsible for him and i feel my life would be a sacrifice for me not to seperate from my wife. but i feel suffocated and aimless in life to work for and im too much demotivated from life that is the reason my finances are low and my health is deteriorating. Please suggest as im not in healthy state of mind.
2007-03-30 03:57:39 · 14 answers · asked by viz kid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok...I feel here's how you can go step by step...
Firstly take care of your finances. Why bcoz, if you have the money you can fight lot of things. You need to take care of your health as well. Talk to your wife. Why she is so? Why she behaves in such a way. There has to be a reason for her such behavior. Trust me...there has to be.
Even if it doesnt wrk...tell her it makes no point you guys being together...bcoz its just going to ruin her, your and ur baby's life. Be an indiviual, dont get pressurerised by anyone...be it ur wife or ur girl. Think practically, rather emotionally.. what is good for you. You married your wife 5yrs ago, at that point you surely would have seen some good things in her that made you feel that this is the rite person in ur life. Where has the things gone wrong. Try to wrk out n even then it doesn;t then by not getting angry or impulsive..but explain her why u guys need to seperate.
Hope this helps you friend!! All the best!
2007-03-30 04:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest a support group. NEVER go outside a marriage when you are living under the same roof. A counselor and support group can help you to clear your mind of all of the pressures of life so that you can think clearly and feel better about your life and your situation. I've found that when discussing these problems with friends they want to tell me what to do or talk bad about the person who's doing it. I am the only thing I have control over. So I hd to learn, with help, how to changemy thinking so I could change my actions.
2007-03-30 04:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife can't stop you from getting a divorce, in many state she has no say in the matter at all. Go see a divorce lawyer right away. Even though it was wrong for you to cheat, no man should have to put up with what you are. She is wrong, she has caused you to cheat on her, it's not your fault (women use this excuse all the time, it can work both ways).
Divorce her and you can start to live again.
2007-03-30 04:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Extra marital affairs do nothing but create more problems for everyone around.
And your wife had the right to humiliate you and your lover in public. I would have done the same thing. And what kind of example are you setting up for your son?
Move out if your not happy!
2007-03-30 04:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage has failed and the stress of that is killing you. Separate from you wife and start divorce procedings. From the sounds of it, it'll be a nasty divorce. But in afterwards, in some time you'll rebound healthwise and financially. It'll be better for everyone involved. You're son also shouldn't have to grow up in a house filled with tension. It's time to move on.
2007-03-30 04:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In reality, your wife checked out of this marriage a long time ago.
It would have been more honourable for you to have officially ended it before moving on.
What's done is done.
End the marriage. Start talking to a lawyer. Fight for custody of your son.
Pull yourself together.
2007-03-30 04:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to try to make a clean break from your wife. I think you should also break up with your girlfriend. You need to get your head straight, and put 100% percent of your energy into you and your son.
2007-03-30 06:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you don't love your wife then you have every right to move on but she has every right to hate you for it for awhile,unfortunately you started a new life before you ended the other,she thinks its her and if she gone you come bk.is it?may bye the health issues is guilt.you cant change the ex's way of thinking,but you can yours,if it feels right then be happy leave your ex to her own healing.
2007-03-30 04:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave your wife you are no longer in love with her , go to the other woman and just because you do this doesnt mean you cant have a good relationship with your son, you can be a good dad without being with his mother
2007-03-30 04:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by Lee 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
file for divorce now...your son knows things are not right with mom and dad...why live in misery? and what do you mean "she wont divorce me"??? get a lawyer and file...
2007-03-30 04:01:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋