Me and my best friend are in our late twenties and are yet to become mothers, but my sister is 6 months pregnant and her sister was also pregnant. But a few days ago her sister lost her baby at 13 weeks.
I feel just terrible for her and their family and in a small way feel slightly guilty for my beautiful niece that will be born in July. I cant imagine how they must be feeling as they found out at her first scan. Me and my best friend discussed for hours all our plans together with the new additions to our families, and the excitment of being aunties together.
I just feel terrible and am terrified to talk about my new niece or my sisters pregnancy infront of her now, im so excited its all we really spoke about. Does anyone have any advice on what I can do to be there for my friend and show her how sorry i am and how much I care? Its such a delicate subject.
2007-03-30 03:53:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
like you already said, just be there for her, all she really needs right now is a friend and that is you, everything will be fine, i am really sorry for their loss. its so hard when those things happen.
congrats on your niece too, and just remember its ok to be happy about it, even though you are hurting for your friend.
2007-03-30 03:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by puppy love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that you are very sorry for her loss and listen when she needs you to. Be as supportive as you can be. Send her a card to cheer her up. You shouldn't feel guilty about your niece, as God works in mysterious way. Usually when a pregnancy ends with a miscarriage, the baby would not have had an easy life and might have suffered.
Just look at this as God's way of sparing the little angel of his/her suffering here and know that they are loved.
Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-03-30 11:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by kam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually if a baby is lost naturally during pregnancy the chances are it had some defect.
You have your own child to worry about, and you need to keep your spirits up. You can't afford to feel guilty over things that you don't have any control. Besides your friend can share your joy as much as you can empathize with her loss.
The only advice is that given by the Apostle Paul. Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.
I see your dilemma, you want to do both at the same time. Often presence is more valuable than speech.
2007-03-30 11:15:36 · answer #3 · answered by d00ney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be her support and assure her that time heals all wounds, maybe it just wasn't time for her to become a mommy and God needed that little angel for a special purpose in heaven, more than they needed him/her down here on earth, god bless you and your baby, and trust me, everything will be ok :)
2007-03-30 11:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by ♫Mama of One♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her and comfort the family. there is not much you can do, but show that God will do it for them again.
2007-03-30 11:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by kennma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋