I decided to stand up for myself with my inlaws. BIG MISTAKE. Now everyone is mad at everyone and I don't know what to do. I am NOT sorry for what I said and now even more hateful, rude things have been said directed at me. All I told them was that I was pregnant and not broken and will make up my own mind. They are now trying to use my children as pawns in a screwed up game. I am also being told I stand between my husbands and his fathers relationship. We live across the street from him and hubby and him work at the same company. I don't understand. What would you suggest I do from here? How long would you take it before you just gave up? Thanks
2007-03-30 03:51:54 · 12 answers · asked by Mrs. Always Right 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have a previous question that explains a little more.
2007-03-30 03:52:13 · update #1
I am indeed pregnant. I am on limited activity and have to see my doctor once a week and do non stress tests 2x a week. This is all over an Easter celebration! Yikes!! I think the Jehovias (sp?) witnesses have the right idea when it comes to holidays!
2007-03-30 03:59:01 · update #2
Oh.. and hubby agrees with me on not needing the stress but is afraid of his father so will NOT stand up for me or his children. We have been married almost 9 years so I know this wont change.
2007-03-30 04:00:28 · update #3
hon i am so sorry you have to go through all this.if you stand in between your hubby's and his dads relationship, good. the Bible says that a husband is to leave his fathers house and cleave to his wife. dont let them walk all over you if they stress you out tell them that you cannot be around stress, so if they cannot respect you in your own house then they need to stay away untill it is time to give birth.
2007-03-30 07:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by Thumbs down me now 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart. Good for you for standing up for yourself. Living across the street from the in laws is hard enough. Trust me I know from experience. Me and my ex lived across the street from his Mom. They saw each other every day, she called all day long, she decided what curtains, what color to paint rooms, etc. I felt like an outsider. Then when I got pregnant she tried to tell me what I could and could not do, how to raise a baby and even tried to decorate the nursery in what she wanted. I finally had enough and told him we either move somewhere off to ourselves or I am out of here. Apparently he couldnt cut the cord and I left....lol...But I had gotten to the point where enough was enough. Sit hubby down and explain to him how you feel. Are you able to look into moving somewhere else? If so I would suggest trying that. My ex still continues to live with his Mom after all these years since I left...lol.. God bless and good luck.
2007-03-30 10:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by sapphireblaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not stand in the way of your husbands' and his fathers' relationship. Don't listen to your motherinlaw's crap! Tell her to back off! You really don't need this stress while your pregnant (especially first and 2nd trimester). She sees you as a threat, a threat that will have her control over her son diminished. Good luck, and I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself.
2007-03-30 11:02:07 · answer #3 · answered by sweet heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is your hubby in all of this? Does he agree with you? or is he backing his family?
You are in a bad situation and can't ignore it as you live accross the street from the problem.
You need to sit with your husband and he has to help you work this out with his family.
If something doesn't work out, maybe it is time to move.
Good Luck & Congrats on the new baby!
2007-03-30 10:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Stand firm! If you don't people get at you time and time again. They're being mad 'cos they're trying to put you back in your place. They'll learn YOU have a mind of your own. Don't give in or show upset....that's what people look for after a challenge.
2007-03-30 10:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just let whatever issue was the cause of the fight die out. If you are pregnant, the last thing you want to do now is create a bunch of hard feelings.
2007-03-30 10:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen, sister. You are pregnant. Are you sure that you don't just overreact sometimes? I mean this is typical pregnant. It's totally not your fault. I think that you should take it easy. Try to stay clear from them until you all calm down. Remember, getting all upset and heated is not good for your baby. Good luck!
2007-03-30 10:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by Princess of Egypt 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd just stand your ground .. you're entitled to have opinions and feelings. I hope your husband is supporting you during this ... I think everything will blow over in time. Your in-laws should be EXCITED about their future grandchild!! Stay strong and don't back down.
2007-03-30 10:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by Duckie314 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just read that answer that you posted to my question....I say that we do run away together and let our hubbys do there thing...I dont have a car but I do have a debit card....Lets go when ever you are ready lets go.
2007-03-30 11:10:54 · answer #9 · answered by Daigsmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that !! My husbands family were mad at me for about a year but you know what?(who cares!!) They now know not to mess with me because I WILL stand up for myself !! Whenever my bully mother in law wants to fight with one of my brothers or sisters in laws, she bypasses me.....LOL
2007-03-30 11:08:24 · answer #10 · answered by Blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋