Well, I'm a senior in high school this year, and I was wondering if guys (in general) mature more in college than in high school.
I had wondered, and hoped, that guys would mature from junior high to high school, but I don't think it has happened to the guys in my class.
My sister and brother (whom are both older than myself) have reassured me that guys usually tend to mature, and become less "stupid" when they hit college.
I'm NOT trying to diss guys. It's just that in general, and especially where I live, guys here tend to be...well, immature, to say the least.
What are your opinions/thoughts on this?
2007-03-30 03:05:37 · 13 answers · asked by icenshewolf 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
This may be the most important thing you ever hear:
1. All men are stupid.
2. All women are crazy.
Males don't change much in their attitudes towards females as they go from High School to College. What does change is that boys who were dorky and out of place in high school become less dorky in college and find that they are not the freaks of nature that they thought they were. At the same time, popular boys in high school often struggle in college and no longer rule the roost.
Women's tastes will change as well. Because of this, you will date guys in college that you would never have thought to date in high school. Those guys will be more mature than the ones you date now. In fact, if you started dating them now, you would find out that they are already more mature -- just not quite cool yet.
2007-03-30 03:18:24 · answer #1 · answered by Ranto 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, guys are different in high school than in college. However, I do not think this difference is directly and solely correlated with age. Instead, most guys are different because they are in a new environment. They, just like us girls, have a chance to start over...to be who they really are.
For example, some guys were assholes in high school because everyone expected them to be. Now that this expectation is gone, these guys can make a new name for themselves.
Also, in high school, your lot of guys is pretty limited. For some reason most high-schoolers feel pressured not to associate with underclassmen. This is not the case in college. I've found that whether you're 25 or 20...0r 18 or 30, everyone truly is equal. I am 20 myself and a junior in college. I have many friends who are 25, a few who are 30, and a few who are 18. My boyfriend is actually 21, but if I were single and looking for a man I'd have a much larger (and more tailored...hehe) selection than what I did in high school.
By the way, my answer is probably only suitable for 4-year schools. If you're going to a junior college, chances are the guys will still feel pressured to act as they did in high school.
Hope that helps! ;-)
2007-03-30 04:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by JenniFire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they do mature... although not immediately... and most seem to take a step or two backwards in maturity when they hit 21 and can drink legally... but they do grow up. Don't forget, you will mature too! The amount of growth and maturation both you and the guys will go through over the next few years is enormous!
It sounds like you have a good head on you already, it is very wise to look for maturity and responsibility in a boyfriend but difficult to find at the high school level. But don't give up hope!
By the way... in my experience, the guys who are a bit "less" than good looking, the guys who tend to be the smart ones, the geeks and nerds, and those who actually like their sisters and treat them well seem to be the ones who are the most responsible, if not also the most mature. (They also tend to end up earning a lot more money than the popular jocks!) Try befriending one of those guys who you normally wouldn't go for, if not for dating, at least for the friendship benefit.
2007-03-30 03:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by reisa2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm.... freshman year of college was (for me) when the boys got dummer (most of them), this is when a lot of them drink more, and for quite a few boys i know freshman 15 was not about gaining weight but who could bang 15 girls first. most of the stupidity is first semester and then they start to grow up. but you have to understand boys grow up slower and for most of them how they mature is based on what enviroment they are in. My advice is check how much of a party school the ones you are looking into are, and if possible spend the night at the school, on a friday so you can get a feel for what the school is really like. I dropped out of college the first time i went because my tour had been on a saturday morning and i thought the campus was very nice and quiet... as it turned out it was quite (11am mind you) b/c everyone was inside from having a hang over, and in my morning classes the teachers were always late and all the girls behind me would talk about how wasted they got last night... ALL WEEK LONG!!! i went to community college and lived there for the first semester and didn't really like it, i have commuted for the past 3 semesters and (over-all) i find that the commuter friends i have made are more mature than the students living on campus.
Good Luck :-)
2007-03-30 03:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by butterflygurl085 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They'll mature a bit and be a bit better, but go for the guys who are in last year, they'll be the most mature !!! Take some night classes when grown me will be taking continuing courses !!! Always marry someone 5 to 10 years older than you (7 or 8 ) would be perfect !!!!!
2007-03-30 03:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by BARBIE 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
generally speaking, yes... they tend to be mature when they are in college. but it's no guarantee. age is nothing but a number and is no indication of maturity. sometimes, it also depends on the type of "crowd" you hang out with. if you hang out in frat houses, then maturity level there would be somewhat lower than... say, the library? but even that, it's no guarantee. good luck!
2007-03-30 04:20:30 · answer #6 · answered by schatz101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they are different after high school. They have to make new friendships and venture out of their own comfort zone that they have also been in for the last 13 years.
Good Luck!
2007-03-30 03:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They do mature as they now have the responsibility of heading towards their goal.
2007-03-30 03:13:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
women need to know this: all guys are 14 years old at heart. It doesn't matter if they're in college or a nursing home. We need women to straighten us up!
2007-03-30 03:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by a 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to college to look foward for guys?? Geez... i thought that ppl attend college to study.
Btw... if i were you, i would be just concentrate in finishing my bachelor...
2007-03-30 03:14:09 · answer #10 · answered by *live,laugh,love* 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋