Most of us have met people with whom we initially felt compatible, only to discover they believed, acted or felt something that we could not tolerate.
What characteristics, opinions, habits, or interests will kill any possibilities of a relationship with someone you would otherwise find attractive?
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2007-03-30 02:28:50 · 13 answers · asked by NHBaritone 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Lack of honesty.
Overly controlling.
Manipulative.
Cruelty toward animals.
Self-centered.
2007-03-30 02:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm a straight woman. In addition to the obvious (cheating, violence, drug addiction, crime), deal-breakers for me would be:
1 - Can't have an intelligent discussion with me.
2 - No sense of humor, or incompatible sense of humor.
3 - Doesn't like pets. (I have cats, and might want to have a dog someday.)
4 - Wants kids. I like other peoples' kids but do not want to have them myself. Plus, I'm 43 years old - my eggs are getting rotten. If a guy wants kids, he'd better look for someone younger than me! [g]
5 - Political conservatism.
6 - A hardcore member of any religious faith. I outright dislike Christianity and Islam, and although I like the other religions better, I just can't live my whole life around religion. A man who is devout would do better to look elsewhere.
7 - Wants a traditional woman who will do all the housework, always consider his needs and never her own, and put the relationship ahead of everything else in her life to the extent that her own job and her friendships suffer. I'm willing to work on a relationship and do my fair share, but I need to have a job and my family and friends, too.
8 - Finally, since I have a boyfriend of 5 years (living together for 3) and I'm not looking, being anybody other than him would be a dealbreaker! ****, Lee, if you're reading this.
2007-03-30 14:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by catrionn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two timing and lack of honesty are the main deal breakers. If there is no trust, there will never be any permanentcy in a relationship.
2007-03-30 02:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by Brent W 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
unreasonable hate for anything, if you can justify dislike for something/someone fine, but pure bias without thinking of the reasons why is a no no for me, part of the reason why homophobia is so rampant now, ifp people thought about it, they'd realise that it doesn't affect them.
other than that it's more of a anything goes for me, the only other things i can think of off the top of my head is inflicting masochism upon others and peadophilia, and of course, i need my partner to be loyal to me, not as in i own them or anythign like that, but to think enough of me to resist the temptations others bring.
drugs is also a major nono, or violence. smoking i could live with, but it'd be something i'd coax my partner out of if i could.
to each their own as they say.
2007-03-30 02:35:13 · answer #4 · answered by §ilver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being hateful.
This may sound silly but someone being hateful towards other people.
Also I can't stand it when someone makes excuses for the way their life is going, blaming this and that for why things go bad and feeling sorry herself....gets under my skin.
2007-03-30 02:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by Danelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paranoia (Yes, I can be friends with my ex.)
Not doing his fair share of housework. (This sounds petty, but it shows that he feels superior to me in that the woman is supposed to take care of everything. I just don't think so.)
Doesn't like to travel.
Honestly believing that watching your own child is "babysitting" (for the father).
If a man ever hit me, I would NOT be looking back.
These are things I could not live with.
2007-03-30 03:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dealbreakers:
Someone who is intolerant of children or little kids or who sneers around children or who doesn't "know what to do" around children.
Someone who is mean to animals. They don't have to love or own pets, but someone who mentions kicking a dog or laughing a shelter pets...is a mean SOB.
Someone who refers to his parents disrespectfully. You can say you hate 'em, you can say you don't get along with 'em. But to be nasty or mean indicates a person incapable of putting forth effort to make any relationship work.
Men who wear pinky rings. UGH. Sorry, but it's just too creepy. A giant gold gaudy ring dangling off some guy's baby finger is always a sign of a hairy-chested macho man. I find it funny, but unacceptable for me personally.
Men who treat waitresses like shhhhiit. Just plain jerks.
Men who are into porn or who sneak looking at stuff...like I won't find out. Give me a break. BYE
Men who hang out at bars with their friends more than being home. No way.
Men who care more about the inside of their car than me...nope
Men who care about clothing labels, designer "anything", what cool new restaurants one must be seen at...no thanks.
Pretentious, self-absorbed men. No way ho-zay.
Also, fans of professional wrestling or heavy duty nascar...sorry, I've never found much depth there.
I like men who are kind, funny, smart, earthy, sexy, happy, fulfilled and introspective. Sporty, woodsy, articulate, educated, silly and with all his teeth also are attractive features!
2007-03-30 02:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by ssssss 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If they tell me their entire life story on the first date, I try to cut it off early, even if they are generally nice and attractive.
If they fail to show up, and then make lame excuses, I delete their number and block my cellphone.
Violence and anger toward other people are pretty good warning signs, and when i ignore them, I usually regret it.
I have to ask myself, if they treat others poorly, how will they treat me. One old trick is to observe how they treat waiters in restaurants. If they are nasty all the time, I lose them.
2007-03-30 02:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by Kedar 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question. I would have to saY that if I felt that he had to real regard for me or my feelings I would be in the wind. Also, cruelty or disregard for animals would make me hate him.
2007-03-30 02:33:46 · answer #9 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Inactive, unhealthy, unhygienic, bored, non-oat eating dudes will "kill my deal".
2007-03-30 03:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋