when a man says i love you but i am not in-love with you anymore, what exactly is he trying to say? i have my own opinion but i was wanting others.
2007-03-30 02:24:37 · 22 answers · asked by greengrass 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my hubby told me this and i am confused on just exactly what he is trying to say, but not wanting to.
2007-03-30 02:25:28 · update #1
Probably means he cares about you but nothing romantic remains.
2007-03-30 02:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he has fallen out of love with you. He still cares for you , but doesn't have the same desire. Maybe he just feels like playing the field again. Or that the grass is greener on the other side. Protect your heart , and be ready for the breakup.
There still could be hope,if you can put the zing back in your relatioship. Maybe, he thinks it's not there anymore. Try getting away together to some romantic place and renew your passions. Good luck.
2007-03-30 13:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by MARK S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ugh. How lucky are you that a person is honest with you. This statement is one of those that can cause hurt or cause appreciation. For me I would thank the messenger. Why? Because I know I can trust them. Nothing worse than wasting precious time believing something or lead to believe something that is not true. This person does not play games and is making his position perfectly clear. My reaction is all right. Not in the changing others game, I will just change my own perspective. Onward and upward I will go.
2007-03-30 03:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is the his meaning and the real meaning.
His meaning: He cares for you. He loves you. He would never want anything to happen to you, but he does not have the same feelings for you anymore.
Real meaning: Same as his meaning plus the fact that he got bored and wants an easy was out without hurting your feelings.
That's ridiculous your "husband" said that to you. When you choose to get married, you can't just one day say "Oh I'm not in love any more" Move on hunny, find someone who will always love you.
2007-03-30 02:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is confused and doesn't know what he wants. Probably a mid life crisis. I am in the same situation with my husband, How can someone say I love you but not in love with you anymore. You make a commimment - that I take very seriously and he can just toss it in the wind. He has since moved out and left me and the kids to "find himself" I hope he does before I get too used to the fact he isn't around. I love him with all my heart but it hurts when they say "I am not in love with you anymore" That goes deep and it will take some healing.
I feel for you and I hope my separation will prove positive and I wish the best for you
2007-03-30 02:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It means he's been watching too many of the same retarded Lifetime for Women movies stay at homes watch.
It's bullsh*t, pure and simple.
This is what it means: "I perhaps used to have some feelings towards you, and I kind of enjoy our sex life, but I want to screw lots of other people. So give me my freedom because I am too big of a chickensh*t to confront the issue and demand a divorce. This is the coward's way out I learned on TV. I want a painless divorce."
I say give him exactly what he is begging for.
I really dislike that idiotic bumper sticker catch phrase.
2007-03-30 03:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very simple really, I can relate to that. I still love my ex (as a person, the same as I love my parents, my kids, my grandkids etc) but I'm not in love with her in the sense of how two lovers feel. What's so hard to understand about that?
2007-03-30 02:34:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it means that he still has feelings for you and always will because you guys are married and have a life together but the feelings just arent there the way they used to be. I think he's trying to find the words to tell you he wants to leave and get a divorce without hurting your feelings to bad.
2007-03-30 02:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means its over. My friends man just said that to her after a 4 yr relationship and not a week later there totally done. Good luck!
2007-03-30 02:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by NY Yanks Girrl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
... my ex told me the same thing...he still has feelings for you and what you guys have been through. and he loves you like a friend. thats how my ex explained it to me. but in reality after you get over the shock it translates to i am interested in someone else....hope you understand and if it dont work out then i can come back to you because we are friends. i let my ex come back but my feelings were never the same.. and after a couple of years i filed for divorce; because the trust was gone and without trust they cant be love.
2007-03-30 02:33:00 · answer #10 · answered by stormy4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That statement is is cliche. Basically he cares for you in a sisterly way, but he no longer feels butterfies, excitement and passion for you. He doesn't want to hurt you by telling you that because in a sense you still mean "something" to him.
2007-03-30 03:25:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋