He works at a bar and called at closing time (2am) to tell me that instead of the usual hanging out afterhours, he would be heading to his boss's house to play poker with a bunch of our friends. He said he felt that it would not be long and he knew I was here alone with our 15 month old daughter and I had to be at work in the morning. I called the house where he was around 5:30 am and wasn't able to talk to him despite requesting to; the owner/his boss said she would see if they were still there and call me back. She did, and said he would be home soon. He didn't get home until 7:30, and things escalated into a somewhat heated argument... well, I guess it got really heated when he started saying things like "**** you, *****; you make me miserable," etc., and telling me he had made the comment that he knew he was gonna be in the doghouse, and that everyone there said about the same. He's also proven to be untrustworthy, which didn't help my worry. Am I wrong for feeling incredibly sad?
2007-03-30 01:51:23 · 13 answers · asked by Jane D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you could probably gather your dignity and self-esteem and figure out whether it's worth "waiting" for him all of the time.
do you really want to be with someone who you mistrust?
would he be willing to get another job? and/or go to marriage counseling?
it's not right for him to stay out all night long, when he works until 2:00...
and, when he didn't come to the phone when you called, and others spoke for him, that was cause for suspiscion right there... he wasn't at that house, and those people were covering for him...
i don't blame you for feeling sad and upset.
take care of YOU.... no one else will!
2007-03-30 02:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you have every right to be sad, mad , whatever feeling you want. He was being selfish to stay out all night leaving you with a baby to take care of and have to go to work in the morning. It sounds like some of his comments that he would rather be out then home with you. I would worry about when I called why I could not speak to him. That seems a little odd. I would be mad if he kept the baby while I worked because he will want to sleep all day while the baby is up. Sorry I would have to think about the the big picture.
2007-03-30 02:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by peachesgirl1212 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he had just been at work that would be one thing, but to then go out to play poker when he has a 15 month old child is just plain irresponsible. He should know better than that. It sound like you need to take action to protect yourself.
Also If he starts calling you names, you have already been removed as the most sacred and special thing in his life.
2007-03-30 02:09:00 · answer #3 · answered by scgraphix 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It was very inconsiderate of him to do that to you. If this was a one time thing then maybe you can let it slide to save yourself an argument but if he does it a lot then you might need to consider having a serious conversation with him about how you feel.
If you don’t trust him and he could be cheating, etc then you need to talk to him right away.
2007-03-30 02:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't wrong. He did the right thing in calling, but the wrong thing in not keeping his word. We all need our space and time to relax, BUT, if I tell my wife I'll be home at a certain time, I'm home. I expect the same from her. It's common courtesy and respect.
2007-03-30 02:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by bugs280 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ur not my husband went out of our city last saturday to see some friends we live in cleveland he went to columbus didnt get home til 4 am i know how u feel i cussed him and everything .. so ur in the same boat i was .. if he keeps it up tell him he would have to earn his trust back .. like right now i somewhat feel uncofortable around my husband ... hang in there hunny .. god bless
2007-03-30 02:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by MOM to megan eli jaiden and ryan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong for feeling sad - but you sure didn't pick a good dude, did you. However, you knew this before you married him, you chose to marry him and have a baby with him.
2007-03-30 02:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He didn't get on the phone, BECAUSE HE WASN'T THERE! And this boss was just covering for him!!! If he was not up to no good he would of made a BEE LINE TO THAT PHONE AND TALKED TO YOU!
WAKE UP!!!!
2007-03-30 02:06:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is not a marriage, and I am sure you can do better then be treated as a rug at home.
This guy isn't going anywhere accept down.
2007-03-30 02:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by jay_d_skinner 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you said ::boss said she would see if they were still there and call me back. She did, and said he would be home soon.
"SHE" is my concerning word. You might want to check on that one,,
2007-03-30 02:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋