my husband is 44 and I am 32. he has 2 kids from a previous marriage. We have tried for 4 years, what do we do now?
2007-03-30 01:42:45 · 10 answers · asked by debbie v 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
As someone with fertility problems- I know it's hard to hear people say "just let it happen naturally"- sometimes it's just not that simple.
In 4 years you have had at LEAST 48 menstrual cycles. That's 48 times being completely crushed emotionally. No one can ask you to take that with a grain of salt.
You would want to do the following to start:
Chart cycles
Use a fertility monitor (I just picked up 3 at the dollar store!)
Chart your temp,
Sex on ovulation days and every other day of the month.
Speak with your doctor about starting clomid or another fertility med.
Seek alternative treatments (teas, acupuncture... etc)
If that fails.. think about IVF..
If that fails.. think about a surrogate or adoption.
I wish you the best of luck. The "trying to conceive" forum on craigslist can be good. I hope to see you there.
2007-03-30 02:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Debbie,
Me and my husband are the same, both fine but still no baby. Been trying 3 years so i know what its like. I hate the phrase 'unexplained fertility' it leaves you in limbo doesnt it? My specialist has started me on Clomid because although i am ovulating etc its the only thing that she can tweak. It has helped me to start being more positive. Can you get hold of anything like this from your doctor? We have decided that if this doesnt work then we will try IVF. I am, like you, 32 and feel like time is precious.
Have you tried any alternative therapies? I am going to give reflexology a go and i have heard Chiropractic care can aid fertility too. I wish you good luck x
2007-03-30 09:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by British*Bird 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-31 11:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by Thiagarajan 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sometimes the stress of trying to get pregnant can cause things to not work well. Also, I had a friend that after a successful pregnancy tried to get pregnant again (with the same man). After years of trying it was determined that their fertility was fine, but she was lacking in the enzyme that breaks folic acid down so that the body can use it. Now she just has to take a suppliment for the enzyme. It is something that you can have your whole life or come from a mutation that occurs later in life. Since she has had a successful pregnancy, it seems that she must have had the mutation occur afterwards. Maybe have your Dr. test for this enzyme.
2007-03-30 09:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by JordanB 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with a previous answer. I've heard of couples getting pregnant when they gave up trying to be. If there is no physical explanation, then you need to look at the rest of you. Are you stressed and worried? That won't help. Take Evening Primrose Oil capsules. They helped me. Relax. If you work too much, cut down on it. Have you done an ovulation test? We had tried for a year and a half and I guess it just wasn't the right timing. Then I bought an ovulation kit and got pregnant right away. Have you considered adoption?
Eat a well balanced diet, don't smoke, consciously relax more, because anxiety and infertility are linked. Best wishes to you.
2007-03-30 08:55:12 · answer #5 · answered by VW 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Go on a holiday - have some daiquiris and forget about all of your woes for a while, and have sex for the sheer joy of it.
2007-03-30 09:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by scatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine had this same problem and she invested lots of money trying to get pregnant and all failed,,,,she quit trying and gave up and boom she was prego. Dont try so hard~!~
2007-03-30 08:46:22 · answer #7 · answered by cynthia_jackson22 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Adopt. It will save another kid's life, and make yours better :).
2007-03-30 08:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by PrettyInPink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray to God for help. It really does work. Stop putting it in your hands and put it in his.
As for you unbelievers out there. That's OK God doesn't need your approval to show his love.
2007-03-30 09:15:38 · answer #9 · answered by Angelfur 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Come again?
2007-03-30 08:45:36 · answer #10 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋