What is wrong with me? Any quick fix to this?

Question

What can I do to help myself?

I am a very sensitive person and everything gets to me when I am stressed. To the point when I have many breakdowns, crying I was seeing a college psychologist 3 weeks ago, and her timing was wrong. We went to the sensitive subjects and I couldn't take it. I stopped seeing her and had a lot of anger. Now, I have some anger left in me, but I have completely changed. I'm pretty cold, bitchy towards my friends, don't care about failing, things no longer bother me. In the past I was extremely dedicated to my education, friends, family. Now, I don't give a shitt about anything. I just don't care, but I don't want to continue this way either. I don't have the time and the patience to see a psychologist. Some of them suuck anyway.

I am also very forgetful, don't give a hoot about my passion anymore, just enjoy socializing.

Answer 1

You may be going through a phase that is immature and will pass. Or you may have a psychological problem. You say you don't want to get help right now because of some lame excuses so you are stuck in this phase until you grow out of it.

Answer 2

Yes, I tried to email you back but it wouldn't work...
Anyway, by gifted I mean unusually bright. There is some research at the University of Calgary (Sal Mendalio, PhD) about heightened sensitivity in gifted individuals. There are also websites for emotionally sensitive individuals. (unrelated to the giftedness issue) Google Sal Mendaglio and emotional sensitivity together, then google just emotional sensitivity. There is a lot of info that could very well be helpful to you. There are even books about it on Amazon if you go to amazon.com and search emotional sensitivity. I guess I don't know you well enough to say if you fit any of these groups, but you might want to check it out yourself and see if you can get any insight into your own personality. Once you understand yourself better, you will be able to get through life more easily. I hope you find some help, good luck!

Answer 3

i think im gonna have a dr.l phil moment here. Youre question tells me so much about you, you want instant gratification. there is no quick fix, if you really thought about it you would laugh at yourself, the human mind and psyche are so complex on so many levels. the psyche is a very powerful force, and the these forces cannot be broken easily. This is bec. your emotions have had about a 13 yr head start on your abstract mind. So until youve made a REAL decision,something that is very internal, something coming from you core/your mind to really put the effort into not only changing but a real intellectual look at what the good in life is (andi'll give you a head start is not socializing, sex, food, music, art those are means, its has to do with your mind - that which makes u human - by the way u see it has validity, no t everyone repects an artiis or a business man, but an intelligent person everyone recognizes that he/she has something, anybody ever say a real bad word about einstein or aristotle?)

you have to use your free will to make a choice, you have the power to make a good or a poor choice based upon your analysis of what your nature is, and what good are you supposed to do due to that nature whuch all of man takes part in.

good luck

Answer 4

You say the psychologist's timing was wrong, but give her another chance. What is wrong with you cannot be fixed quickly or without help. And the point of therapy is to deal with sensitive subjects. If you had cancer you would find the time and the energy to see the oncologist. This is a similar situation.

Answer 5

it sounds like you havent solved any of your problems,,,,,, solving the problem of being too sensitive is not to go the other extreme, and be uncaring,,,,,, though when your young, its normal sometimes to go to extremes,,,,, you do need to still talk with someone,,,,,, i would suggest seeing your first counselor one more time,,,,,,,, if it doesnt help, ask to see someone else,,,,,,, you do need to find the "right" fit,,,,, in a therapist,,,,,,
since your problem isnt resolved, your using the coldness and bitchyness as a defense,, to protect your feelings,,,,, that is not good for you, nor is letting your grades fall,,,,,
you need to maintain the self you were,,,,, yet improve/work on some areas,,,,,,,, not give up all that you were, to totally be different,,,
ps: being in college, maturing into an adult, is stressful, and its normal to cry sometimes, our emotions are more sensitive when we are under stress,,,,,,, even i as a grown up, at work, when i have been overworked and am exhausted,, can tear up, just at a little what i percieve as rudeness or unfairness,,,,,,, where as other times,,,,, it wouldnt bother me at all! so make sure you are eating right, and getting enough sleep,,,,,