how do i cope with my partner having health anxiety?

Question

we have been together for 10 yrs and for the past 2 yrs he has been told he has health anxiety. he is convinced he has cancer and is at the doctors/hospital all the time. he becomes very mardy and moody and spends alot of time on his own upstairs. keeps saying i don't understand, but it is starting to get me down and upsets my son when we argue about it. should i keep supporting him?

Answer 1

Are they doing anything to help him with this health anxiety? I know that his issues seem very real to him, but he must be willing to help himself deal with this issue. You can't fix it for him and he is hurting his wife and child. I'm surprised that one of the Doctor's he has seen hasn't put him on anti anxiety medication and referred him to counseling. If he is willing to get help and work at it then he will get better. Should you stay? Well. if you believe in commitment and your vows for better or worse, then yer you should stay and help him get this problem worked out,

Answer 2

It`s a word that I find I use a lot on here but it is meant with truthfulness,Counselling is a important part of a relationship when things are not going along as they used to,for not only your own sanity but for your child as well, if all of you go & see someone so no one is left out perhaps there may be a solution to the problem that is causing you so much upset.Yes,he needs your support probally now more than ever & it may also be he has no idea how to approach you in telling you what the problem is?

Answer 3

hi i have anxiety, i don't know if your husband gets any off the symptom i get but if he does it can be so scary . with this problem you tend to focus on one thought . say like he thinks hes got something wrong with him that will totally absorbed his life .he then could say start to think if he say choke on a small piece of food he could get so absorbed with that thought he then would get anxious at meal times.so like right now you would be saying my husband has got a eating anxiety and so on.mine manifest like that one day it was one problem the next it was something Else but now . with me its when i feel i bit anxious i get that i think am going to take a panic attack .i will not go to any place myself . i get my heart starts to race a little than my hand start to shake then my heart starts beating real fast and then my whole body trembles ,it is a hard thing to live with always thinking when will it happen again it takes over your live.you also go into deep thinking trying to think of ways to control it.but you cant not until you under stand it and because you cant .you find that he gets very snappy due to trying to cope with it and at time he will be so miserable he does have a real problem but his doctor is not treating it so it is as if hes alright in every ones eyes. he must be so desperate.you i mean you must get an appointment with your GP tell him how it is.and you go to ,i did and i was put on half inderal it is a better blocker its used to treat many things and like stress anxiety .migraine's etc . good luck it changed my life big time and it is not a tranquiliser nor is it addictive good luck / ps./ this is a real illness but it does have treatment but also once treatment has started it can be overcome also you will find if you can let your husband talk about these feeling ,with you having a bit more no about. i bet it its self will make him feel 10 x better

Answer 4

i have suffered from this, its a horrible feeling even though u prob r not ill u feel it. every little pain worries u it is a mentel problem he can not help it he needs lots of help an support to help him through this

Answer 5

Your husband has psychological problems and needs help...be there for him but if he cries wolf too many times when it really is an emergency, no one will pay attention...