how can i tell hiom that we are not really for each other.. i will hurt him.. and i will hurt myself too.. i love god more than him.. but i know i really love him,, i am confused.. what should i do?
2007-03-29 22:57:46 · 10 answers · asked by shane 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you should have not started it in the first place if you knew that you were religious and had those values in you.
to limit problems in the future - talk to him , explain the matter, forget about him and vanish - quick. and be more careful next time.
2007-03-29 23:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ellen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't compromise your beliefs. If you believe that you shouldn't be "unequally yoked" (2Co 6:14) then don't do it. Explain this point to him.
If you really love him, then you will want him to know God, and to have all the benefits that a Christian has (like eternity with God). If you compromise your beliefs, chances are he will not respect your beliefs and as a result you will lose his soul, though you may have his heart. Choose what is more important, then try to win that. It is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT to know what you will teach your children. I see and understand people's points about how the U.S.A. is supposed to be where you can practice different religions etc, but showing someone respect for what they believe, and trying to raise your children to know the Lord are two completely different things. You have to have an absolute authority - something that you can stand on and that your children can question and get a solid answer on. You cannot have this if daddy is not a Christian and mommy is. There will ALWAYS BE tension if there is not unison.
All the best!
2007-03-30 06:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is the best answer you can provide anyone with for anything.
I suspect that you might be a witness. No one else would worry about it so much these days. One religion is just as good as the rest for the rest or so it seems.
Anyhow, if you are a witness, just know what you are getting yourself into before you jump.
It has been my experience that if one disobeys the laws of men, they can still live with themselves but God's laws are something we don't ever want to mess with. Always put Him first as He is the only One that can really make it all up to you if you don't give in to what truly seems like "instant gratification". Not that I'm insinuating here that you don't love this person (woe to us if we didn't love our neighbor) and that he doesn't love you but your own conscience might be enough to ruin your chances of being happy as I sense it working in you already. Make sure of all things as I know you can and will. May Jehovah bless you with the necessary insight and guide you in His true will for you. Let this one thing be perfectly clear that whatever it is that you decide to do about this or anything else (as you didn't just begin here today to do more or less as you pleased or the whole "affair" wouldn't have gone this far in the first place,) whatever you decide now is what you and no one else will have to live with. Are your eyes wide open? Are you or did you get into some sort of depression in which case you might seek professional help? (God forbid! I just read in the news that they (professional shrinks) admitted that there was no science or proven science to their methods whatsover, so we must learn to be our own best doctors with Jehovah's help, it is possible). Did you perhaps lack faith and forgot to pray for a ton more? Did you get disillusioned with the ways of the old system and decided that you needed a comfortable shoulder to cry on? If so remember that every cherry contains a hard and sometimes painful pit if we were to forget about it. Whatever it is, you will reap what you have sowed as we all do. And unless you already knew that too, I doubt that you would even have asked about this here. My humble opinion is that you take some time to be alone with your God before you take another step in the other direction and when you do decide, just be aware of what it will really mean for you. No one has more faith in the power of love than I do. It is more important than the air I breath and I must be happy in the knowledge that the only true and profound love in my life is my God whom I can't see except with my mind's eye. Still nothing else invisible or not, matters more than that. Of course the "agape" form of love is there in my heart for everyone that breathes and do the best that they can to endure until Armageddon finally does arrive. While what we really long for is normal, it is too often a sly trick of Satan who makes things appear as the glorified things that they are not. And once he has accomplished that, we are the ones stuck with the consequences. I sincerely wish you the best that He has to offer... His immediate help and guidance for it would be just grand to see you in the real life ahead.
2007-03-30 06:43:20 · answer #3 · answered by Teri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without God you wouldn't know what love was. Teach him to love God just like you do . Maybe noone has ever taken the time to teach him.If you both love God you will be happy together. Don't let an opportunity to be w/ the person you love slip away. People who love each other grow together as a couple in some ways . Work on this w/ him.He may never love God like you do but if he loves you he will try.
2007-03-30 06:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by harlot j 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no reason that you can not practice your religion, and he practice his. If you have children, just expose them to both religions, and allow them to decide which one they believe they can follow when they are older. That is the wonderful thing about living in the U. S. We respect everyone's right to practice their own religion.
2007-03-30 06:09:07 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am in the same situation.. think it thru very hard...
God will not punish you for choosing to be wih someone you love. you should love unconditonally..
However you need to understand his religion very well as chances are he will want the children o follow his religion...
All the best
2007-03-30 06:26:50 · answer #6 · answered by MENJ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can love someone that doesn't have the same religion as you. If it's really love than it'll work out.
2007-03-30 06:02:58 · answer #7 · answered by sexy_n_chicago 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tricky tricky.. is this absolute decision? is he willing to check our ur religion? if not, time to find someone else...
2007-03-30 06:02:25 · answer #8 · answered by Veda Raissa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to say but.....
i dont know,it too personal,just you and your couple who can resolve it.
i dont want to destroy your relationship with him.sorry...
2007-03-30 06:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by xtian_andreas 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try and talk to him about it before you do anything
2007-03-30 06:00:42 · answer #10 · answered by Click 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋