How to handle my life crisis?

Question

i was in a car accident few years ago and it's like i can barely think anymore

i have extreme anxiety that magnifies when im in public. Just saying hello to a stranger or even a neighbor sets off panic and fear inside me

i havent slept well in years

i dont want to live anymore as i have tried so many medical avenues

im lonely i have not had affection in years

do i sit here and vegetate or should i just take my own life
what would you do if you were me and this was your life

suicide is so hard to do
but im thinking it be harder for me to get a job and a life without freaking out all the time

Answer 1

I really do understand where you are coming from. See, in 97 I was in a head on car wreck that broke my back, leg,foot, and and sternum. I almost died and spent 8 months in the hospital. I was told I'd be in a wheelchair by 30 yrs old. For 2 years after the wreck I self medicated, drinking and drugging every day and being miserable, alone and in pain. My wife left me because she said I was like living with an old man. I couldn't drive anymore, didn't want to go anywhere and was having a terrible time dealing with the pain all the time. Now, I am 33 years old, still walking although with a limp, and I am happily married to the most wonderful, loving woman. I still live in chronic pain 24/7 but I see a Pain Management Dr. who has helped me alot. Please believe that life is worth living but you've got to get some help. I, too became isolated and never went out or wanted to see anyone. An antidepressant was a big help as was counseling. I came from a very dark place to live in the light again and you can,too. Yes, I contemplated suicide many times, but couldn't do it to my family. The guilt of what it would do to them stopped me. I have a happy life now although still difficult. Please keep trying, get some help and come back to your life. It is well worth it and you never know what the future holds for you. I wish you the best!

Answer 2

I'm going to tell you a story. I'm 17, my name is Sarah and I live in New Zealand.

When I was 14 I was in a car crash. It was pretty serious. The Accident Investigation Team told me I should not be alive. The doctors told me I would never walk again. Well here I am, almost 4years later. I play squash on a monday night, 1hour run on a tuesday, soccer on Wednesday and Thursday and two games on a sunday, I run for 30mins every monday and wednesday.

Also, I was raped and sexually abused by two different guys for more than 6months.

I was depressed. I was in a state where nothing could get through to me. I hardly slept or ate for those 2years. I would sit in my room and cry and physically hurt myself.

On top of this I was facing the fact that I had a father who didn't want me and an emotionally abusive mother.

3 of my friends killed themselves.

I tried to commite sucide to many times to remember.

My friends took me to two very useless counsellors who made my situation much worse.

Finally, I snapped out of it. I woke up to myself and I started to give a sh*t. Now i am at school, in my final year, getting really really good marks.

I also had social anxiety, I was terrified of people. But i faced that fear head on and I did public speaking.

Snap out of this mind frame, go and get a job. The only way of improving. You are never going to feel better if you just sit there and feel sorry for yourself.

I know it's hard, I know too dam well!! So just get out there. Find a new doctor. Get a job. Make some new friends. It's worth it! Trust me!

Answer 3

How sad for you. You can get treatment for your anxiety disorder: there's medication for this, and cognitive behavioral therapy can work well and quickly. However, you have to reach out and get help. Start with your doctor. Also, instead of sitting and vegetating, try volunteering your time to help others. There are certainly things you can do, even if it's making a daily call to a lonely elderly person to make sure that they're safe and haven't fall and can't get help. An organization that helps people can set you up to be a volunteer from your own home. Volunteering will give you a sense of purpose and satisfation - it really works. Finally, I'd call a suicide crisis hotline and talk to someone -- that's helpful too. Good luck... I'll be thinking of you.