2007-03-29 21:13:02 · 15 answers · asked by 12189usa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your friend doesn't need you to judge her. To your best ability don't even bring up the subject. Don't make her feel uncomfortable. Don't touch her that much because she might still have flash backs of that horrible event. The best thing to do is to let her know you care and you are there, no matter what it takes. That you are not going to leave her. She needs support, and definitely don't tell the whole world about what she went through because she might feel that it was all her fault. Remember to tell her that she is the victim and IT WAS NOT HER FAULT!
2007-03-30 03:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a female, be available to listen.
If you are a male, let her know that you are available...but don't be surprised if she doesn't call you right away. Since it's 99.9% of the time that a male is raping a female, it's hard to say what her feelings and thoughts will be about men after this traumatic experience. So again, if you are a male, proceed cautiously and with heightened sensitivity.
A great book to gift is "The Courage to Heal". And emails or cards sent in the mail every so often, saying something like, "Thinking about you and wishing you a happy day!" are thoughtful and gentle reminders of your availability, care, and love for your friend.
2007-03-29 21:27:10 · answer #2 · answered by Fozzie-J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was raped by my own father. All I wanted at the time was for someone to not treat me differently.. Be there for her to have fun with but DON'T push... And try not to touch her unless she initiates it.. It is a very difficult thing to get thru... Trust me..
The fact that you are even asking how to make this easier on her shows that you really care for her and really want to make things easier on her which is the most important thing right now when everyone else is prolly thinking of prosecution and all the other legal crap that goes with this nasty thing..... You go!!!! Take care...
2007-03-29 22:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by babyangeleyez17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep reassuring her that it was not her fault. She may feel as if it were but it is not , and it never will be. it doesnt matter what she was wearing , where she was, what she was doing , who she was with, anything. Be there for her if she needs you, comfort her, maybe suggest she sees a councillor. Try and encourage her to get this animal charged, or at the very least try and get her to go to a dr so she can be checked for std's and if necessary get treated. if she is not ready ot go to the police just yet, the dr's report will be there to back her up when/ if she is ready. Above all just be her supportive friend.
2007-03-29 21:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by suzi Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her... and listen to her... and hug her if she wants one but don't be offended if she doesn't want anyone to touch her at all.
It's a very very stressful situation... my daughter had a friend who was raped, and she was there for her through the whole thing.. at the hospital, with the police, everything...
And afterwards the girl broke off their friendship.. she wasn't very nice about it at all, but I think it was because my daughter was too closely associated with the horrible experience.
Just be kind to her.. and listen... and accept that she may not respond rationally no matter what you do.
2007-03-29 21:20:36 · answer #5 · answered by endorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that she's probably very sensitive. my friend ashley was raped last year and i stayed with her for three days. your friend might be very scared, so it isnt great to surprise her. remind her that there are some people in the world who care about her much more, and that that won't happen again as long as shes safe with you. keep her strong.
2007-03-29 21:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by Me Being Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off i am very sorry to hear about this horrible incident ,well there is so much things u can do for her i am counselor for abused and raped women if your friend or your self needs any advice on what to do contact me.In order for me to make suggestions its better for me to know what her emotions really are at this time right about now she is going to be confused,frustrated,depressed,among others the best thing u can do is just be there for her ,listen to her,take her out if she is ready,do not mention boys at this time. do not try to calm her down by saying u understand what she is going through because u really don't there is alot of other things too numerious for me to type out now so please contact me at:
randy_mac103@hotmail.com
2007-03-29 21:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by Rendevous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your local rape crisis hotline, and they will give you good advice. Also, they probably have professional counseling available to her at low or no cost, and she should definitely get that. If it just happened, she should go to the hospital and have them collect evidence in case she decides to file charges.
2007-03-29 21:21:15 · answer #8 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let her do the talking, find out how she is doing and don't pressure her about seeing someone professional as she might not feel comfortable talking to a stranger, and whatever you do, don't say you know what she is feeling unless you have been raped, and don't say that she'll get over it, cos this is not something you 'just get over'. what's important is LISTENING
2007-03-29 21:20:39 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you are there for her when ever she needs to talk and that you can go with her to meeting and what ever she needs. when she gets to the point that she need to vent take her to a punching bag when now one else is around and tell her to think of the person who hurt her and hit him with all that is in her to do see if that help her out any good luck with this it is a really bad thing to happen to some one
2007-03-29 21:22:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋