Do you think its right to raise a child for gay couples?

Question

Wont the child be devastated to know that he has two fathers and no mother or two mothers and no father?

Answer 1

Being a good parent has nothing to do with the sexual preference, I believe that most children of single parents are more devastated to know that either mom or dad are not home with them and the parent that lives with them is usually working most the time to make ends meet, so this poor kids are down 2 parents.
I rather have TWO loving parents at home than a broken family.

Answer 2

SIngle mothers and single fathers raise childen all the time, and they can end up fine through it all. In the same sense, hetero couples can raise children and they can end up not so good, like shooting up a school or worse. If you're questioning the parenting capabilities of someone, then you should do a psychological evaluation of everyone considering raising a child. You might find that more hetero couples would be rejected then gay couples.

Its not the question of who raises a child, but how the child is raised.

Answer 3

No, because it would be biologically impossible for the child to have no mother or not father. The basics, as far as I'm aware, haven't changed and in order to have said child, both a female and a male must be involved. I think you'll find that the majority of gay couples who have children have access to the child's biological parent/donor. The child is, at a certain age, given a choice as to whether they wish to meet this parent. This parent is also given the choice.

And, in all my years as a counsellor, I've NEVER encountered a child who has suffered any kind of psychological trauma due to not having a mother or a father. In fact, children of gay parents are probably better adjusted than SOME of the children of straight parents.

Answer 4

Gays can have all of the kids that they want.

Sure, some gay couples will mess it up, but plenty of hetero couples mess it up, too. What is more important is that the child knows that there are two people that love him and are trying to do their best for him. I read about a study that suggested that there was little difference between teenagers raised by a gay couple and those raised in a more traditional setting. And most gay couples that I am familiar with that have kids make sure that there is a strong male or female figure around to enrich their children's lives.

In fact, I would feel pretty special as a kid, if I knew that my two mommies or two daddies went to lengths to adopt me or have me through surrogacy or insemination. I would know that I was wanted and wasn't a mistake.

Answer 5

I don't understand what you mean by raising a child for gay couples. Obviously, the child will biologically have a mother and father. If you are raising them for the couple then the gay couple is out of the picture.

Answer 6

There are too many children without families to rule out a couple because they are gay. Do you know what it's like to grow up in several foster homes, orphanages, without knowing love? A loving family is a loving family, regardless of the parents' genders.

Answer 7

Is it right? That's a moral question. I personally don't think there's anything morally objectionable to it.

Is it healthy? Absolutely. The research says that children of lesbians, gay men, and transgender parents turn out about the same as those of straight parents. The single biggest problem these children face is external prejudice towards their families, so if your concern is for the emotional health of the children of gays, the best way to address this is to show understanding and support for these children and not punish them because of your evaluation of their parents' morality.

Every major medical and psychological association in the US that deals with children has endorsed a policy that calls for equal rights and treatment of these families, including these organizations:

* American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry (1999)
*American Academy of Family Physicians (2002)
* American Academy of Pediatrics (2002)
*American Bar Association (1995, 1999 and 2003)
*American Medical Association (2004)
*American Psychiatric Association (1997 and 2002)
*American Psychoanalytic Association (2002)
* American Psychological Association (1976 and 2004)
* Child Welfare League of America (1988)
* National Adoption Center (1998)
* National Association of Social Workers (2002)
* North American Council on Adoptable Children (1998)
* Voice for Adoption (2006)

The research likewise says children of gays, lesbians, and transgender parents turn out about the same as children of straight parents.

In terms of mental and emotional health, there is a clear answer: Yes, it is.

Answer 8

The only problems the child will face is the unfair society especially his/her classmates thinking he/she is also gay because of being exposed to gay parents. I pity that child not because of his/her parents but because it'll be hard for him/her to fit in society where the friendliest people are his/her true friends or the people he/she doesn't know.

Answer 9

I think it is wrong very wrong, a child needs a mother and a father, not 2 fathers or 2 mothers. These children raised by same sex couples grow up with all soughts of problems.

Answer 10

I think Gay couples should have the same rights as the rest of us which yes includes raising children