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I have no desire to go out with friends or put an effort in making new friends. Even when people make the first move in starting a friendship. I don't even want to be around people, except as I work.

I am depressed and have been since finding out my husb is a liar and a cheat. Been to counseling and I am being treated for depression. I'm level headed, just no desire.

I use to pray to God that I would live long enough to see my sons have a family with children of their own. Now I have been praying to live just long enough to get my youngest raised and out of the house living on his own.

Just going through the motions for my kids' sake.

2007-03-29 19:00:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science Psychology

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I think considering what you have been through of course it is normal to feel depressed and not wan to mix with anyone.
I too once suffered severe depression and do understand how you feel I could not even be bothered to wash somedays.
I once wanted to end my life however what stopped me was hearing my daughters laughing like drains over something so silly.
We were all in a difficult situation very simular to you and so they were feeling all the pain too and I thought if they can laugh and smile then so can I.
That was over seven years ago and the place we are all at I would not swop for anything.
Learn from what has happened stand tall and proud you are a women with children who need you more than any man husband or not.
YOU ARE YOU remember that never loose who and what you are your other threads you are a business women and inteligent you also have a lot going for you.
I took a long look at what I had and started thinking right get sorted for ME AND MY CHILDREN. You do that and you watch that man take notice moveing on is something he will HATE with a vengance it is you being so down that is making him happy remember that too.
You have a friend and good luck.

2007-03-30 02:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by momof3 7 · 0 0

I'm sorry that you are hurting and I know once you hit depression it is hard to bounce back. My only advice is to keep praying everyday and ask God for strength. When you wake up in the morning pray again. Start exercising, drink plenty of water and eat healthy. Don't stay in bed... take a shower, force yourself to do things. You have to take steps to get out of your rut. Have you ever watched "Diary of a mad black women" ? If not, I urge you to watch it. I feel it will help. It is an outstanding movie that is so close to the very best answers. Good luck!

2007-03-29 19:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by Marla C 2 · 1 0

Your depression medicine needs to be changed. I've been there. Talk to your doctor about trying something new. Sometimes it takes trying several different ones until they find the right one for you.

You have a right to be plain angry--not depressed. Don't let that jerk destroy your life. He is the one that should be suffering, not you. He has already tried to make a fool out of you. Are you going to allow him to ruin the rest of your life.

Your children and future grandchildren need you.. Get out there and find a way to fight back. Not all men are idiots.

What are friends for, if they can't comfort you in a time of need? You are being unfair to them.

My thoughts will be with you.

2007-03-29 19:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1 0

I would be depressed too so its normal to not want to be friends with anyone. But we have to be stronger and not let some loser guy put down who we are. Theres a new show coming out starring Debra Messing, and I love the commercials, how she knocks over the "HIS" stuff and puts the "HER" stuff in front. Who are you going to let take over your life? The good side? or the bad side. Its up to you and the person you are...STRONG or WEAK. Forget everyone that's made your life terrible and focus on your own success of being a woman.

2007-03-29 19:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by Laurellamags 5 · 1 0

i felt the same way for a while. I dont know if its normal but after a while it will start to eat at you and you will get out of practice of making friends and you will wish you had them and then if you ever feel like it you will have a hard time making relationships. You have to stay in practice or it will start to suck

2007-03-29 19:09:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Frankly talking, i'm on an same darn boat as you're..xpt the actual undeniable reality that i'm 19. Oh properly, Indian households can get verrryyy conservative. My mum could get a stroke if I ever were given a bf. So, i have learnt to stay without one. at the same time as i understand a few thing isn't gonna take position, ordinary approaches to save myself satisfied became to resign upon it. almost all my acquaintances have a bf & definite, I admit it does make me sense lonley, unhappy & all of that. yet deep down i understand, there is this "someone" accessible for me & me on my own. and that i only anticipate him. there is not any longer a lot i visit do anyhow. there became this guy at uni, whom I loved..he loved me too (it became obtrusive) yet we were too shy to take it "furthur". Its compared to I cant get a bf..yet by way of my conservative kinfolk, I dont wanna have one ( i understand this sounds xtrmly stupid :P ) some months in the past, i became brooding only the way you're..then I realised, my existence is proper (contact timber)! I have large acquaintances, a loving kinfolk, solid grades..why became I nonetheless depressing? only coz I dint have a bf? How shallow! at the same time as this realisation struck me, some thing replaced from interior of. I felt happier. i finished attempting..stopped searching for some1 to love. believe me, i have never been extra valuable! Its no longer my position to assert this, yet be at liberty with what you've. count number your advantages. provide up cribing..once you provide up attempting, it is going to come to you. i wish I dont sound all "preachy" & "mom-like"...!!! Sorry If i have been harsh. solid success, even with the reality that :)

2016-12-03 00:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by aoay 4 · 0 0

I wish I could help you.

It is your husband that has done something wrong. Let him carry that baggage around.

Keep going to counseling, you need someone to talk to.

Try to be strong for your children. They come first anyway. Have fun with them and don't let them know of the burden you are carrying around.

Be all you can be for your children.

I will be praying for you.

2007-03-29 19:19:32 · answer #7 · answered by DeeJay 7 · 1 0

This is normal. I have depression also and i feel the same way about people. its part of the depression. i have a strong belief in god too. if u have faith, depression is easy to handle, and with medication.

2007-03-29 19:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Yes,this is a stage of life that can be very healthy for you...sometimes we need alone time.

2007-03-29 19:09:52 · answer #9 · answered by Direktor 5 · 1 0

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