They act like people they arent, they ast like everyone likes them, and they are so mean saying everything messed up with my outfit when they're outfit is like really messed up(seriously)!i dont want to just ditch them cuz thats mean and im friends with one of they'r other friends(there are 3 people i like one dont like 2)They always treat me like such a little kid when im way way more mature then them and like i dont even think im younger then them! What should i do?
2007-03-29 18:21:38 · 7 answers · asked by marshmallow 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
ive told them theyr meen and they just say your mean(cuz ive started like slowly not hanging out with um since theyr mean and they are now calling me mean!)
and they always say theyr my friends and i always have to be with um!
2007-03-29 18:42:39 · update #1
Ditch them.
There are others you will find as friends.
If your still get on particulary well with one of them then after you have left the group get in touch with that person and be honest with them that you just dont want to hang out with the others anymore but you really appreciate them. If they respond well then you build a friendship with them separate from the others. If the respond poorly then you dont need them as a friend anyway.
But dont just rely on the hope that one friendship is enough. Find other people you do get on well with! There are lots of nice ppl around.
You dont have to do anything you dont want to. It sounds like they are trying to manipulate you, to make themselves feel better. Dont follow their lead. Be who you want to be and how you want to be. A few years from now you will not be bothered if they like you or not, if you like yourself first. Move on from these 'friends' or if you stay hanging with them then take the lead to improve group behaviour and attitude. Its up to YOU what kind of young women you want to grow into.
2007-03-29 18:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Telling by how type you sound like you are in middle school or beginning high school. Anyways...if I were you I would stop being friends with them. Real friends don't put you down or make fun of you. Tell them how you feel about the situation. Then break it off. You will be happy in the long run. I know it will be hard because you probably don't have any well established friendships but it will be worth it in the end!
Don't worry about it...:)
2007-03-30 01:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by L.M.L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just have a talk with them & explain your feelings, tell them what`s bothering u...sometimes this helps, sometimes it doesn`t...but if u really want to salvage the relationship u have to get your feelings across to them, not in a mean or hateful way, just calmly discussing how u feel...in some cases it`s just better to let it go & not worry about them, if they continue acting in a way that is condescending to u, then probably they are not your real friends anyway!!! find people who share your interests & treat u with respect & hopefully u won`t have this problem again!!!
2007-03-30 09:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by *atomickitty* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've often found that people who feign confidence have deep self-esteem issues. Even to the point where they often times insult others to boost their own self-esteem. Those people aren't your friends, real friends know when to with the jokes and make you feel better about being yourself. They keep you around because they're miserable being who they are, and like the saying goes, "misery loves company." The quicker you realize that and ditch those people who bring negativity into your life, the quicker you'll feel better about being who you are. If you feel confident about being yourself, and you like being you, others will follow. Number one rule, don't ever lie to yourself. Be true to who you are, and leave bad company to embrace true friends.
2007-03-30 01:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by Trancendence 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u shud not hang around with such people whome u dislike always try new friends move on may b u find 1 good friend of your choice
2007-03-30 02:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by volini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them what bothers you, and if they still act mean or judge you or whatever, then you may seriously consider dropping them. ask the one you do actually like if he or she has had similar experiences with them, because if both of you can confront them, they will probably be more likely to believe it. ive had friends like this and most of the time confronting them helps because they may not even realize it. but if it starts coming from people they consider friends, they may listen to. but in all honesty, my gut instinct was to tell you to just drop them. if thats not your style, then try calling them out on it like i said. they may come around.
2007-03-30 01:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
iF YOU DON'T LIKE THEM ANYMORE THAN YOU MAY HAVE OUT GROWN THAT RELATIOPNSHIP AND IT LIKE ANY OTHER RELATIONSHIP YOU NEED TO BREAK UP WITH THEM.
sIMPLY SAY NOTHING PERSONAL YOUR A GREAT PERSON BUT I THINK WE'VE OUT GROWN EACH OTHER
2007-03-30 01:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by Stacy L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like you're really "friends" with them.
2007-03-30 01:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by ohmycinderella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋