Do you think the pain of life is worth it?

Question

If so, why?

Answer 1

Sometimes I really wonder if life is worth the hassle, but then I remember how I feel when I'm with, or think about, a certain person, and how all the troubles in life seem to drift off into the background and just don't seem to matter. It's times like these that I get a sense of what life is meant to be like and I feel inspired to do something to change the way my life is going.

It's not for her that I do these things though, it's for myself. Because she makes me realise how I can be happy, and how good it feels to enjoy life, for however short a time that may be for.

Life can be hard, but there are things in it that make you realise that yes, the pain you go through can be worth it.

Answer 2

Dear Martina:
This is an interesting question. Let me bottom line you right at the beginning. Whenever a person is asking this kind of a question, you wonder what is actually going on with them. You don't think about all the troubles you've had. So what is it that you really need? What is it that you can do to renew your ZEST for life.
I could sit here and tell you about every bad thing that's ever happened to me...Like being at the same table in a night club with my husband (10.5 yrs older than me) and noting the attention he gave a "younger" woman (I was 24) who later became my replacement...We had a three yr old son, and I was pregnant with our second at the time (no I wasn't drinking) I had never worked other than at home...He wanted an abortion to make his life easier...No way I did that...but all the pain visits every once in a while...I placed my second child for adoption...it made sense to give this beautiful little "blueprint" two parents' instead of me...I was so shattered by all of it. I had no idea what welfare was so I didn't even know there was that kind of help out there. It was a private adoption thru my doctor.
I was determined to improve my life...I worked awhile and then entered college. My college years were the best especially in raising my son. Five years later I stepped out into the world again, feeling at least a little better equipped...but stuff happens..Like the state stepping in and taking my 14 yr old son and putting him in a mental hospital...
I tried being married again...lasted 7 years...I thought I had gotten right the second time...but Christians are sinners too.
I guess I am still the optimistic type though....I still want to see what's around the next corner. And I said all that to make the last statement...If you're feeling bad and the pain is too much
just look around for someone who has it worse than you...
There's more to my story, alot more and I don't give up...
I keep looking to make it better. The sun shines, the birds sing, it rains and the sun comes out again and again...AND
most of all GOD is there and knows before I do what next step I will take.. You see if I had ever stopped "looking around the corner" I would have never made a trip to NC in January to meet my beautiful girl (age 30)and ALL her family.
Is it worth it??????? ABSOTOOTINLUTELY!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

While one is experiencing each aspect of pain in their life, no, most often it doesn't seem worth it at all. After the fact and/or as they begin to understand both IT and the why's... Most often yes, it is worth it and typically for excellent reasons! All forms of pain which might take place in ones life, that is PART of life!!! Without it one would not recognize and/or be aware of the many positive aspects nor appreciate them, value them.... Such as love, acts of kindness etc etc etc. Although not all that great going through it or feeling it, pain is a vital aspect of a full life, and yes, very "worth it" in the end.

Answer 4

I'm really sorry for your losses recently - and doesn't that sound glib, just a euphemism for what must be just awful for you. What you must not lose sight of, it the days in the future when you will feel just sooooo glad to be alive. What would the loss of you do to those around you...?
Excuse me, it's not 6am, but I just had to feed my cat - surely the most handsome cat in the country, that's what the vet told him anyway. I see you have a puddy cat too. Isn't it wonderful to have their love, and to provide for them. To feel needed and wanted, isn't that what we all want? I also have family. My parents had me late, and they are now gone. I'm forty now - but I've been married for five years to a wonderful lady. Every day feels good. Even when we lose those we care for, we hopefully still have others. and we often don't know how much we mean to them.
It's understandable that you are down right now, and will be for some long time. Just carry the people you have lost inside you - they aren't gone all the time there are people alive who remember them, that's the rule. I like that one, it's a middle-finger raised to the face of Death. Death? We have to come to realise, and (our measure is in how we face our own mortality) that the calendar will get us all in the end. It has for everyone who ever lived before. What counts is what you do whilst you are here, who you love, how you love them. You are a beautiful, sensitive young lady - you will inspire some people in your life, and you will complete the lives of some others.
Enjoy!

Or consider the alternative. Schlepp around in sack-cloth and ashes, wailing and moaning through this veil of tears, until you take an overdose or do something stupid from a high ledge.

I hope you find an abundance of peace and hope for the future. And love. It's powerful stuff. Cures all ills.

Answer 5

You have to turn the pain around, seek the best in every moment and i know that's very difficult but the alternative is never experiencing life at all.

Life is everything, so change your mindset, and focus on and even force the better moments yourself. You have more control over your own peace of mind than you realize. Step back and look at yourself theoretically of course, as an observer and then make positive changes.

Answer 6

One must endure pain in order to experience happiness. To not sound so cliche, just look at it this way. Pain is pretty much the definition of life, sorry. Every human naturally desires happiness. The only way to get from one point to the other is endurance. The reward is totally worth it. Why must I explain, try it out yourself. You'll see. :)

Answer 7

Without the pain in life, how could you know the differenece between it and being happy?

Pain is needed so that when good and happy experiences come, we can actually have something to compare/contrast it to, and find the joy in those happy moments.

Without pain, we wouldn't know what happiness would be.

So that would be the motivation, to experience more joy in life and that to me is worth going through the pain.

Answer 8

Generall yes because I enjoy life - even though I wonder what, if anything, it's for

However occasionally the degree of pain(mental, physical or both) can be such as to make me depressed.

If there were no pain it would not be worth living!

Answer 9

Yes, I like to think so, just because whatever comes after the pain of life has to better than what we have now.

Answer 10

Yes, you have the potential to invent newer and faster ways of doing things, dealing with problems and excelling at tasks that initially do not suit you. life is not about pain, it is the consequence if you make mistakes without learning from previous mistakes, if people give up then they have nothing, so the gift of life means something different for everyone.