me and my ex have been done for 4 months. she broke up with me and got pregnant. now her man left her and it seems like she is coming back on to me. that weekend he ended it she txted me sunday and was asking me how i was. i told her if she ever needed anything i am a call away. She txt me the next day saying we need to talk. so later that night we talked and she said i was right about everything on how her man was dawg and how he was going to use for everything. and indeed he did . i love this girl with all my heart but im confused. is she coming bak on to me? Is she realizing i was the real one for her? i mean i want her back and we can work threw this whole pregnancy situation. Or shud i say the hell wid her?
everyday i think about her. U know when the say when you love something let it go? and IF it comes back it your real love? I feel like this is it . someone please give me advice
2007-03-29 16:29:38 · 20 answers · asked by Xavier(*X*) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dude...run....She needs someone and your the victim...I would tell her to look elsewhere...It like you are second best, not her first choice and because the other guy left her, she needs someone to play her baby's daddy....Run from this one
2007-03-29 17:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She is pregnant with someone else's child. She just broke up with the other guy and came running to you to cry on your shoulder and make everything right again in her world.
RuN Away!! She is scared and needs someone to lean on and you do not want to be in the middle of this. SHE needs to make some decisions and take action on them on her own. It doesn't matter if you were right or not. You will get burned if you get involved with her right now. She should turn to her family right now. If you really think she wants you back then tell her that you feel she needs to take a break and take care of the more pressing problem of the pregnancy and what she is going to do and how she will handle the father. When that is taken care of and she has had some alone time to really think about what she wants then try some dating if you still feel that you are in love with her and go from there. Be very careful...stay strong. Good luck
2007-03-29 23:41:30 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she would've have left him for you, than I'd say go for it. The facts as you state them is that she was dumped after getting knocked up. She's lonely and scared, she's turning to someone she cares for but maybe not be doing so for the reasons you want.
BUT! That's not to say that she isn't being honest with you. That she didn't finally come to her senses and realize you've always been the better man for her.
Its a risk you're going to have to decide if you're willing to take. You know her better than anyone else on here, and you know what limits you're willing to set for yourself. Can she hurt you again, absolutely!! Is it a guarantee that she will? Absolutely not. Though statistically it is the more likely out come. Yet, people beat the odds every day.
Probably didn't tell you anything you don't already know, and certainly haven't given you any advice one way or another. This is truly something you have to decide for yourself. You know all you need to know to make a choice you can live with.
2007-03-29 23:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by b0red2tears 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a situatiom i been in before except the story was flipped and i was the one playing games which sounds like your ex she's going to fall back one the most supportive person she needs the most rigth now especially in her condition, if the baby is your then work it out if not leave her alone you may not stop loving her and forgetting her will be hard but you need to move on, if she jumped into a relationship with someone else as quicly as she did then let it go someone like that is looking for support and a back bone and right now your the one she needs and the one who moslty likely is gong to end up with her with your arms open and thats exactly what she wants and know shes going to get it trust me you will ove again you only get three great loves in your life and when you find her you will know and tell yourself i didnt really love her loves a big chess board we all play the game until we can get that check mate some f us make it and some of us don't the balls in your court!
2007-03-29 23:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by Tiny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The break up with this guy seems so recent. How do you know she will not go back with him. Maybe even after the baby is born. Be careful! Just be there for her as a friend, but let her go. If it was meant to be, it will be meant to be. Let her sort out her problems and feelings. Being pregnant doesn't help you either. She has a lot of different emotions right now. I really think you're going to get really, really hurt. Let if go, and see if it comes back.
2007-03-29 23:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by Lana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW. Well first of all- good for you to being man enough to take care of another man's child. I think that is excellent when there are so many men and women who won't even take care of their own children.
Ok, first I have to tell you- love is blind. Maybe your ex is just playing games with you? Maybe she realized that you are the easy choice for her to get back with you? I sure hope not because you sound like a nice guy.
If you want to have another go at it- then go for it. If you love her- that is what she needs more than anything right now! When women are pregnant they really feel the need to be cared for. And if you really love her and think you can overcome what you have gone through then do try it.
Love is funny, love is kind. Never become too bitter to enjoy it- so if this doesn't work out- keep that in mind.
2007-03-29 23:37:47 · answer #6 · answered by Nickster 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You totally deserve better than this! The guy is hardly out the door and she is already calling-and knocked up! Are you sure this guy is gone for good? Don't you think he might want to be the dad to his child? How are you going to feel about that? Why didn't she come to your senses, and realize she still loved you before now? My opinion is your on very shaky grounds, and your only her rebound. Sorry. Good luck! It will only take a short time to find out which way she's really going.
2007-03-29 23:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your feelings are real, and yes it also sounds like your girl is realizing what she had. You need to give her some time though, to make sure she isn't just rebounding. Shes pregnant and emotional... hopefully what she's thinking is for real, but it's best if the both of you give it some time to find out.
Love is a very strong emotion. And I do think it's worth another try.
Good Luck!
2007-03-29 23:35:40 · answer #8 · answered by Nikki 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes it would be dumb and expensive shes knocked up its not yours, she wants someone to take care of her since the babys daddy is gone.he will come back and in time she will dump you and then you get to pay child support for like 19-20 years on his kid and they will both laugh at you for being a fool.its not real love its real bull crap grow up dude she srewed around before and she will again.good luck.
2007-03-29 23:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with come back let it go theory, my Ex came back and I haven't accepted him back. Some people are just no good. Sometimes you have to think with your head not your heart.
2007-03-30 00:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by Bu Tran 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋