I am regularly told by someone very 'close' how self-centered I am. I don't think that overall I have a problem, but in certain areas/situations, his accusations are likely accurate. I do not want to be a bad person, and sometimes I feel that I should feel more concerned about others. What can I do? Can I change this?
2007-03-29 16:22:50 · 7 answers · asked by Jane D 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You cant run away from yourself. You are there all the time. So to a certain extent, you are self centered.
The answer to this question is simple. Try spending more time thinking about other people and other peoples' problems than your own.
By doing the foregoing, believe it or not, you come up with projects to help others. This takes your mind off yourself.
Pretty soon you'll get the hang of being humble and modest. Wonderful traits if you want to raise kids. By definition, if you have them, they mean more to you than anything you want.
2007-03-29 17:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by krollohare2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can. One thing that made me self-centered (and still does) is my assumption that I'm right, you're wrong, and it's your fault.
So whenever someone criticized me or gave me an option to take something lesser, I back down remind myself to think the best of the person concerned. That helps me to like the person better, at least for a moment, and make a decision that will benefit them, and just maybe me along the way.
Much luck finding your answer. =)
2007-03-29 16:31:18 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can change this. Try to stop and think about your actions and words and try to include how others feel and their needs. It's important to sometimes put others needs and wants before your own. The more you do this you will find that people have a positive reaction toward you and I think it will also make you feel better about yourself.
2007-03-29 16:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try volunteering at a food bank, or in a hospital, when you see how fortunate you are, and how good you have it compared to some other people, you will have more compassion for others less fortunate.
2007-03-29 17:06:23 · answer #4 · answered by seven-11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never change who you are...... nobody can be more self centered than me! how long do you expect to live? live every day like it is the last, every meal a banquet. if nobody pats you on the back do it your self. what can I say but tell your friend to put some make up on and lose weight. lol
2007-03-29 16:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by Mark F 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Try to mingle with the society, friends as much as possible. This way you will learn many things, you will be able to share your knowledge and this way you will be more happy.
2007-03-29 17:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by nimesh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by listening to what others say to you. Just ponder over what people say. If it's some kind of criticism use it to your advantage.
2007-03-29 16:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋