Right now, I feel this burning, churning feeling in the very pit of my stomach. I feel like I could just go crazy right now, and I feel extremely depressed. I feel a strong hate for everybody for some reason, I guess it's because when my friends rely on me, I'm there for them, but when I need them, they are never there. I feel like they're all just using me for advice and it's driving me up the wall. What is that feeling? Hate, hurt, anger? I really don't like it.
2007-03-29 15:53:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i have a lot of people that i used to believe were my friends. then i realized what a true friend was when they reciprocated the same things i put out. i'm going along with what some of the others said. ditch those losers, and stay positive. your good advice will draw a good friend. i know the feeling. it's a feeling of disgust when you realize all the good you do, and it's somehow not appreciated. people are selfish. just give to give. don't expect people to be thankful. appreciate it when it happens. for now go drink a glass of water, run some water over your face, or punch a pillow. get out some of that hate.
stay positive, my friend.
2007-03-29 16:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with DrNight 1 above. You need new friends. Seriously. Partly what you are suffering from is the growing realization that YOU have somehow allowed people to treat you this way. I went through the same thing. The "churning feeling in the very pit of your stomach" is from figuring out, at least subconsciously, that you've been playing the fool. You get over this state of the spirit by being more careful about who you are loyal to. In the movie "Wild Bunch", a western, Ernest Borgnine's character says, "It's not about how good your word is. It's about how good the man is you give your word to."
2007-03-29 16:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same as you, about 90% of the time. Including right now. It's hard to sum my feelings up, but yeah I know what you mean. I'm not sure what the feeling is, I think it's everything balled into one. Anger, hate, frustrating, rage, sadness... you name it. I'm always there for certain people, who are NEVER there for me, and it makes me so incredibly mad. I think you just need your friends to appreciate you more. Try to stop being there for them so much, to show them what they're missing out on. If you're always there for someone, it's easy for them to take you for granted. If you're busy for a week, and can't listen to them complain, then they'll see what a big help you are... and appreciate you more.
2007-03-29 16:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by * 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ick, that sucks man...
Well, you're aparently under stress, right? The burning in you'r stomachis probably stomach acid... which your stomach produces too much of under stressfull situations. You might want to take an an-acid every now and then, or youcould develope an ulser D:
As for the deep hate, you might be depressed D: Try you'r doctor, and he'll probly perscribe you something for the burning pit in your stomach, and the hate.
Hope ya feel better :D
2007-03-29 16:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by Oh Wow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have days like that where I feel like I just hate everything and everybody. I think it is anger and frustration combined. Anger about the situation and frustration at feeling like there's nothing you can do about it. I am working on this because when I get like that I'm not a very nice person and I get really quiet around my family and that's not fair to them. It also ruins your day and everybody elses who's around you.
2007-03-29 17:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well according to what you have said about them always having you to rely on for advice and you not getting the same in return, i would tell you that feeling is all of the above. hate, hurt and anger.
you hate they arent there for you like you are for them..youre hurt that when you need a shoulder or someone to listen to you its like they dont care and youre angry because of all you do for them. now its got you depressed. do yourself a favor..either dont be as helpful to your friends or find some better ones..the ones that will appreciate your time and effort because they are out there..they might not be your type, but youll get the feeling you deserve
2007-03-29 16:01:47 · answer #6 · answered by sweetness 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like deep resentment and hurt.
If the feeling is that deep, it sounds like your soul is turning cold. Can you say without a doubt that you have communicated your needs in their entirety to your friends and family. Your not passive-aggressive are you? Have you said to them what you've said here:
I feel extremely depressed; when my friends rely on me, I'm there for them, but when I need them, they are never there. I feel like they're all just using me for advice....?
If you have not, then you need to take responsibility in failing to communicate to them. If you do not tell them, they will not know. Resentment is not a pretty thing and can turn someone cold in a heartbeat. Don't let it take you over, say what you gotta say and tell them to be there for you, like RIGHT NOW. Tell them what you need and lay your boundaries down.
2007-03-29 15:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by LetMeBe 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The burning is probably bile; there are 2 kinds of people, those who respond to emotions by producing bile and those who don't. So you've got too much because you're upset and it's eating up your stomach (drink plenty of pepto bismol or melox).The rest sounds like you're unable to stand up for yourself and get people's respect so they stop walking over you (happened to me alot). Don't let them or find other friends otherwise you'll always think back on that with resentment and upset with yourself you put up with it.
2007-03-29 16:01:52 · answer #8 · answered by strawberry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can absolutely relate. i think it's the feeling of feeling sorry for yourself. I get that quite often, sometimes i just feel really used by others and it's as if they don't appreciate me at all.
I personally don't believe in such thing as "friendship" because it never really works out for me and I know for sure i am not doing anything wrong.
2007-03-29 16:00:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm try counseling or therapy. Its not good to feel depressed because they have some long lasting effects. Feel better and dont let your "friends" use you like that.
2007-03-29 15:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by E* 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋