Is it wrong to do something entirely for oneself? Not in the sense of for greed or to aquire some ridiculous want, but in the sense of doing something for oneself because one needs to take some time away or one needs to perservere through something to help something work out for the best.
2007-03-29 15:29:00 · 7 answers · asked by Kiara 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The idea of right and wrong isn't what the issue is. The issue is understanding that in doing so they can not expect for people to stay the same while they are gone. They can not expect to get their life together and walk back into the old one. For example in the case of a parent putting a child into foster care so that they can get themselves together. That child had to deal with that situation and that child has feelings about it. Regardless if the parent was right or wrong, the feelings that child has are still there. The child is not the same child the parent left. The child has a new life experience that is molding them.
People leave their families and loved ones all the time so that they may get themselves together. This is hurtful, especially if hurtful things occured before they left and where never dealt with. When something hurts someone else, it doesn't necessarily make it right or wrong. It may have been a good choice for everyone involved, but it doesn't mean that it won't invoke feelings of anger and resentment from others.
Someone left me recently and never even said they were doing so. Personally, it would have been a lot easier to deal with them leaving with some sort of explanation, then to deal with waking up one day to find that person gone and wondering if they hate you, or just want time to themselves. Am I angry about it, yes. Am I hurt, yes. If he came back tommorow and wanted me back, I would want to jump in his arms and be his everything, but the reality is I don't know if I could do that. The trust is broken and trusting him again would be very difficult. Does that make what he did right or wrong? It doesn't really matter.
A person needs to understand that making that choice means they are not going to come back to what they left. From my point of veiw, that is what has hurt the most. The man that left me will never be the man he used to be, because that man wouldn't leave me. I will never be the woman he cared so much for prior to him leaving, because that woman never went through being left. I don't know if we will be better off, I guess you never do. If it is worth the risk, then I guess a person should go for it.
2007-03-29 16:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by uhohwhatswrong 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a branch of philosophy known as ethical egoism which would say it is not wrong because no one has an obligation to sacrifice their own needs for other's needs and it is always best to satisfy your own needs.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ethical_egoism
Utilitarianism would say there might be something wrong with it because actions are only ethical if they bring about the most benefits for the most people.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Utilitarianism
I would say that if you need to take some "me time" in order to keep your sanity then that is what you should do.
2007-03-29 15:36:08 · answer #2 · answered by ~Christine~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not. After all you are the most important person on earth as far as you are concerned and if you want to go on being so you can do for others or whatever you want then you must take care of #1 first
2007-03-29 15:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. In fact, it is healthy to do that. The first rule in a good relationship is "Take care of yourself." If you let yourself get depressed or stressed or upset, you will not be a good friend, wife, mother ... whatever. So ... take care of yourself. It makes sense when you think it through.
Dr. J
2007-03-29 15:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by Jerry H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong at all. In fact, I think everyone deserves and needs to sometimes do something strictly for themselves. If we want to be able to be there for others when they need us, we have to take care of ourselves also. I think it's good for the spirit and soul to take time to do something special just for yourself.
2007-03-29 17:48:28 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"External Validation", "Self Actualization", "Self Promotion", "Self Aggrandizement", "Ethical Egoism", or the pursuit of happiness is not the same thing as a Holistic-Dynamic approach to survival. Breathing is something We do for ourselves. Is it wrong?
2007-03-29 15:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong in the least.
2007-03-29 15:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋