My girlfriend is 43 and I'm 34. Also I've never been married and she has twice (one divorse other passed away). She has 3 kids. I'm I crazy to be with her. Clearly we like each other but will I regreat this? Please help!!
2007-03-29 15:27:49 · 23 answers · asked by figo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only if you truly don't love her, but if you love her then what else would be the problem? Age? That shouldn't stop you from being with the one you love. Love knows no boundaries. Do what you think is right for you.
2007-03-29 15:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't regret it. I have seen bigger age differences. My sister married someone 12 years younger than her and they are perfectly happy. She has also been married/divorced twice and has four kids. I have never seen her so happy! I know that he loves her more than anything in the world. Just make sure you work out all of the big issues before talking marriage (do you want kids of your own, can you be a dad to her three children, does it bother you that she will age before you). Take all of these factors into consideration.
2007-03-29 22:35:43 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, just don't get married just yet, give this time and see how it goes. And no. You are not crazy!
Love and compatibility cannot be measured in age, statues, number of kids, or a dollar amount.
You need to be together for a while and take your time, for both your sakes. If in two years, give or take, you are still going strong, then it very well may be, that you have found the one for you!
2007-03-29 22:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number, its not like your 20 years apart, 9 years is nothing, you aren't children your adults. I wouldn't say 20 and 11 are a good match obviously but love doesn't have an age limit. If you not only love her but can love her children, then you will work, if you can't love her children, walk away. She deserves someone for her children and herself that can give themselves totally, be a husband and a wonderful step father to her children. Take the relationship slow, if your heart isn't with the kids, walk away, it is hard to love someone elses children the way they should be loved.
2007-03-29 22:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by chefck26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dad is 53 and my step mother is 63 they have the most wonderful relationship I have ever seen so I would say NO you are not crazy for being with her. If you will regret it later only time will tell you never know whats gonna happen 10 years from now.
2007-03-29 23:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being nine years younger is no big deal. I once had a boyfriend who was eight years younger than me and it never bothered us. We were together for 13 years and he wanted to marry me but I turned him down because he had too many problems that I could not deal with. Don't let the age difference stand in your way. Do whatever you feel is the right thing to do and what makes you happy.
2007-03-29 22:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number. If you are crazy about her. . . you'll never know unless you try. People make mistakes right?? I'm sure you have, hers just happens to be marriage one bad marriage, the other one passed away. If she is great, she deserves the benefit of the doubt. Give the gal a chance.
2007-03-29 22:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you're happy enough to spend time with her, but there is no reason to jump into marriage. You should only decide to marry her if/when you both are sure that you can't live without each other. Any relationship is going to change when you start living together full-time. So, if it isn't solid to start with the aded stress isn't going to help.
2007-03-29 22:37:48 · answer #8 · answered by Eveready 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your girlfiend both love each other and are happy with each other...why would you regret it? Cos of the age....? You guys are adults not children.
But only you know what you really want. Dont rush into anything, take it easy and see how the relationship goes. If you not happy then leave her....
2007-03-30 05:26:50 · answer #9 · answered by BadGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't a major age difference. You may also consider that women tend to live much longer than men so you may actually have a more logical age difference than most. If it is a good match then go for it.
2007-03-29 22:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋