how do i tell them
2007-03-29 14:59:45 · 35 answers · asked by tiffy c 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i guess you just tell them
no other way around it.
do what YOUR heart tells you to.
good luck, best wishes.
2007-03-29 15:02:16 · answer #1 · answered by mommy of 2 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sweetie, I am totally with Maria on this one:
Please DO NOT have an abortion, no matter what. I have talked with too many people who've had them and are haunted by it the rest of their lives!
The encouragement that I can give you at this point is that there was once a time when I had to tell my parents that I'd had sex for the first time. But telling them was the hardest part, NOT the other way around. Once I got it off my chest, not only did I feel lighter, but I got to see that beyond their disappointment in me, they still loved me so deeply! That's what I'm hoping you'll see when you tell your parents, as well. :)
I'm sorry that you have to go through this, especially at such a young age. That is so hard. Just know that no mistake is too big to be forgiven by the Lord, as long as your heart is repentent. And as long as you have Him by your side, no decision that you'll have to make as this child's mom will be too hard, either. I believe in you, and I'm praying for you during this time. Not only for your own peace of mind, but also for your words to be guided from Jesus as you tell your parents about this. Love to you!
2007-03-29 15:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them quick!! They will not be happy but at least they can help you. There are many people that would love to adopt this baby and your parents can help you through this. But the sooner you tell them the faster they can get you the care you need. You need to see a doctor to monitor the pregnancy. Vitamins are very important. Good Luck and you can get birth control free of charge so use it next time if your parents dont crazy glue your legs together.
2007-03-29 15:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by cleanfreak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to know where the parents of these 14-year-olds are. It is absolutely pathetic and sad that these young girls are sleeping with these boys (who are just as much at fault) and ending up pregnant.
I think I speak for everyone here when I say: YOU ARE TOO YOUNG FOR A BABY. Please, consider adoption and then close your damn legs until you've finished college.
Let me make this clear for everyone: An education will get you a lot farther in life than going out and having children at a young age. Education is what is important. Not sex.
2007-03-29 15:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take someone supportive with you if you can. Also try to decide what you want to do. It is my hope you will give the baby up for adoption. I know it may sound hard but its better than abortion or raising the child yourself. You can not raise a baby at 14.
Listen, you deserve love right now. Maybe there is a group in your area who can support you emotionally. You made a mistake but you can fix it by giving this baby to a couple who will love it forever. Then you and the baby can move on successfully.
This isn't the end of the world even if it feels like it. It won't be easy but you can handle it! Again try to get some support, decide what you want to do, quickly, and then bring the support when you tell your parents.
I don't know if you believe in God but He loves you and isn't pointing His almighty finger at you. He's there to help so pray. I promise He understands.
I'm praying for you now. I was in this situation so no judgement from me at all. You are just a girl and I'm sending you all my love. I wish i could help more.
2007-03-29 15:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by Dawnmarie K 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can run, but you can't hide! Please, tell somebody as soon as possible! Especially if you are not going to be able to be a parent to this child! There are many seeking children who can give them a good home. You are far too young to have children! You are but a child yourself! You did the crime, now you must stand up for what you did, and you'd best face it fast! You may still be able to give it up if it's not too late! But don't just sit there! What's the point? It's going to come out sooner or later, isn't it? Please do it now! You must, for the sake of that child! Forget about yourself, someone else's life is now involved, not just yours! Do the right thing! Be responsible for your creation and responsible for yourself and your actions! It'll be a great relief to you to stand up, admit and move on with a plan of action!
2007-03-29 15:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit down for a quiet talk and tell them. If you're keeping the baby do it after the time allowed for an abortion. Go to planned parenthood or a local clinic for medical care and make sure you're eating well and drinking well.
If they have a hard time understanding get a counsler or your school involved.
2007-03-29 15:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make them both sit down in a large room with comfortable chairs. Make sure you have something to fiddle with (when I'm nervous I'm always messing around with something). Tell them calmly, but not with too much confidence. Don't call or leave a note because that will make them mad and they'll feel left out and annoyed. Tell them as soon as possible to get it over with. Hope this helps. Good Luck!
2007-03-29 15:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by cheeso 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand they are going to be upset. But they will always love you. Tell them you have some news that is going to upset them so they can prepare. Don't wait unitl there is no time for other choices either. You have to tell them sooner than later.
Make sure you are alone with them and no one can interrupt. Then tell them straight out you have made a bad decision and think you are pregnant. If you have taken a pregnancy test then show them. Ask them to help you with a doctor's examination for your health and the baby's.
Expect there to be some drama. Don't get angry just ask for their forgiveness and love and support. I'll pray for you.
2007-03-29 15:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by Jim from the Midwest 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im 14 too and i think i am pregnant aswell!!! i havnt taken a pregnancy test yet but i am pretty sure i am. I dont no how to tell my parents either. I am hoping that u will email at bubbly_bree_93@yahoo.com so we can support each other through this. Hope to her from u soon.
2007-03-29 15:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. Trick question? I know itll be hard but you must tell them asap. You & the baby need the proper care. Explain the situation to them..Explain ur sorry and u acted irresponsibly..(not to be rude) that u made a mistake. Im sure theyll be upset but hopefully theyll be understanding. If ur thinkin abortion, perhaps think ADOPTION instead! Good luck hun.
2007-03-29 15:11:06 · answer #11 · answered by Exquisite 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋