Alright, my husband ticked me off this morning on the phone...at first he thought he was being funny and he was like, "Oh, come on - you're not really mad are you?..." and even after I told him he was ticking me off, he still persisted.
Eventually , he was making me so mad, I was like "I have to go..." he was like "Fine, then don't call me back until you get rid of you attitude." He called me about two hours later like nothing happened and I was pretty short with him.
Now, 12 hours later, I still haven't called him...should i call him or keep waiting until he calls me?
(if you just want to make fun of how childish this is - save it, I know it's childish)
BTW - he's out of town for work this whole weekend.
2007-03-29
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As a rule, men are more likely to just let things go than women are. He honestly probably doesn't even remember what he said to tick you off by now. After you've calmed down some I would call him. Maybe tell him you're sorry for being short with him earlier, but you were still upset over x, y, z. Explain to him why it upset you (I guarantee he probably doesn't have a clue).
You probably don't want to stay mad at him all weekend... and this way you'll calmly get your point across and maybe hear an apology as well. Good luck!
P.S. I don't think you're childish at all... every couple goes through things like that more than once!
2007-03-29 12:40:54
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answered by gigagiggle 3
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Not sure what he said, but it obviously hurt your feelings. You can't just pretend it didn't happen because not acknowledging your feelings is not healthy. What you do need to decide is how badly this hurt your feelings. This does not sound like something that was so bad as to cause a divorce. I will say that the longer you let this stew between the two of you, the harder it will be to get over - for both of you. For you because the longer you hold onto the grudge and the pain, the stronger it gets and the bigger hold it has on you. And for him, because it may seem that whatever it was he said didn't warrant this response from you. He may feel hurt also that you reacted so strongly to something he didn't perceive as such a big deal (even though it was to you). I guess my questions are - how bad was what he said? How much damage are you willing to let this do to your marriage? Are you willing to let this go so your relationship can be strengthened or are you willing to hold on to it and allow it to weaken your relationship? By the way, I don't think you're being childish. You're hurt. But maybe he is too at this point. Good luck getting this worked out. And when he returns home, I hope you two have a great romantic weekend together to make up and rebuild!
2007-03-29 12:40:23
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answered by sandy 3
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If the way you phrased your question is an example of how your phone call went, then yes you were being childish. You asked us to answer your question and didn't even tell us what it was that"ticked you off" this morning. Try thinking things out before you get angry, or make decisions you will regret later. It seems that he was trying to make peace when he called you back. It takes two people to make an argument, or a marriage for that matter.
2007-03-29 12:40:02
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answered by Shakaar 2
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well im a little confused on weather you want to call him to tell him that you didnt like what he did or to say that your fine now so i guess ill comment on both. if your calling to tell him that you didnt like what he said then you need to decide if you are calm enough to have a conversation about it without getting frustrated or mad. if you are not then just go and watch tv or listen to music, anything that calms your nerves down and makes you feel better. if you are going to call him to tell him then you have calmed down then make sure you have calmed down lol. dont call but still be mad because that could just cause another argument to arise. if you are calling to tell him that you calmed down you should probley stick an apology in there even if you arent sorry for what you did. people always like to hear that someone admits they were wrong and it really usually makes things better between the people rather then those fights where neither person wants to apologize first in fear that they will look weak. people apreciate getting apologizes and its always a good way to break the ice and make everything more tolerant.
hope this helped <3
2007-03-29 12:39:58
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answered by niki 2
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They are aggravating critters, aren't they, those men :-) In guyspeak, he was already saying he wanted to make peace by calling you two hours later. He considers the whole thing over. Guys have short attention spans for those kind of spats. They don't go on for days, like women do, with that sort of thing. So let it go. Big picture, try not to ever go to bed mad at each other or to have one of you leave town with you mad at each other. If something were to happen you would never forgive yourself for not telling him you loved him the last time you saw him. So don't get all bent out of shape over the small stuff.
2007-03-29 12:41:47
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answered by desertjewelcats 3
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sorry to say but it is childish,anyway---everyone most likely has done this more than one time in their life. Think of it this way..... if he died right now, how would this make you feel?
"he was just kidding around" is what you would be saying the rest of your life and probably live to be a grumpy,lonely widow when all you had to do is just laugh! Life is too short and you should enjoy every second of it. So call him and apologize and I'm sure he will too then when he gets home pester him just like he did you ! HAHAHA
2007-03-29 12:47:20
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answered by Anonymous
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You should call him and just be cool. Do you want your husband being mad at you while he's away from home? If it were me, I'd worry that my husband would go out to the bars or something like that out of retaliation or just being mad. Besides, it's not worth the stress it causes you to be upset over the little things. As people always say, you have to pick your battles. Doesn't sound like this is worth fighting over or holding a grudge over.
2007-03-29 12:38:05
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answered by Anonymous
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Don't you hate when that happens. In my personal experience, we are usually both wrong. Sometimes I persist with being childish and then feel stupid, sometimes I stick to my childish guns and make things worse. If it were me, I would call him and tell him that you didn't think you had an attitude and youre sorry it came across that way and you really felt like he was antagonizing you. Tell him you love him and don't want to fight over something so silly.
That's just my opinion coming from 14 married years of experience.
2007-03-29 12:38:32
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answered by sillymorg 2
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He's just being a guy. I'd typically say, let him wait it out, but with him being out of town - just call him. Act like nothing happened. Actually, think about what started this whole thing. It's really pretty minor, isn't it? Put it behind you. If anything ever happened to him while he was out of town, you don't want his last thoughts of you to be distasteful. I don't want to sound morbid - just realistic.
2007-03-29 12:40:31
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answered by Anonymous
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no that isn't childish but heres what you ........ call your husband and talk about the whole situatuation express how you feel about the things he said and if the conversation get heated up calm down and speak in a calm voice so that if he is yelling then you say " why are you yelling can't you see that im talking to you in calm voice all im trying to do is resolve the problem instead of building it up inside i m doing it because i care" this works because 1 it makes him feel bad and to it makes him feel stupid for yelling in the first place
2007-03-29 12:41:30
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answered by Luciana N 1
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