my children are 11, 9, and 8 everything in the matter of custody is my question?

Question

My children are 11, 9 and 8 everything in the matter of custody has been left open due to my ex-husband not taking the class children-first for the state of IL My son is 11 and he is going to his dad's house this weekend and I would like to know whether or not this is a good idea I do need an answer by tomorrow at 2 p.m. Please help me in this situation My new fiancee is worried that he is losing me because of this and he is not happy about this situation with my son. Please respond quick

Answer 1

This is a very difficult question to answer especially regarding the welfare of children. If my understanding is
correct, the custody case is still not solved, due to the fact your husband did not take a class of, "Children- First" that was ordered by the State of Illinois. Did the courts make this decision regarding no custody due to his neglect for not taking this class? If so, do you have complete custody & the Father has none. If the courts made this decision, I would certainly follow their standards. This is why we have Family & Juvenile Courts to protect the little ones from parents that do care to be a good or better parent. If the Court did not agree for the father to have vistation, then I would not and suffer the consequences of possilbily losing my children or to have the Courts sending a family service in your life and questioning your ability of making bad choices. If your son knows of this possible weekend I would suggest a picnic and a good park for all of the children. If the financee doesn't won't to go, then make a nice day for you & the children. The children need you to be there for them, apparently this Father can not & this financee doesn't appear to be good husband or good Father material.

Your fiancee needs to get a grip. If a man can't love my children as much as he does me, then he can leave. He should be concerned about the right decision for your son. Right now do what is right for your children, protect them every way you can. Don't allow this financee in making you feel guility, "because he feels he is losing you over this", this is a control factor, he wont's to control you, so beware!
Perhaps this finacee needs to attend a parenting class or a boot out the front door!!

Answer 2

Not sure I understand your question why wouldn't you let your son go to his dad's in fact why aren't all you children going to there dad's this weekend? Your fiancee isn't even their step dad yet so he has no part in this situation with your son and if he feels like he is losing you he is being selfish since your children should come first.

Answer 3

I do not fully understand your situation. Perhaps you could post an update. Why does your ex have to take a class? What does it cover? This is his father and unless he is abusive or a danger in some other way, why shouldn't he see his father? Again, a bit more information would be helpful.

Why does your fiancee feel he is losing you? Your relationship with your ex or what?

Answer 4

Better get used to it as once he finally takes the class, you will be awarded custody and he gets visitation rights and your kids will be visiting Dad on a regular basis especially once he starts paying child support. Youve stated nothing here that would signal any trouble if he visits dad this weekend so let it happen.

Answer 5

Ask your attorney. Why did he avoid the class? Was there abuse issues? How mature is your 11 yr old? Sorry I don't have better advice. Are you and your fiancee in counseling to help with the stress and to improve your relationship?

Answer 6

Your "new fiancee" is not even a factor here. He is NOT your son's father.

If your son wants to see his dad, let him go.

Answer 7

dont start messing with the kids. If they want to see dad, let them. if you dont, your personal feelings will destroy them. THAT WILL ALWAYS BE THEIR DAD!

Answer 8

if u don't feel comferable then don't let him go

Answer 9

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