In January, one of my best friends separated from his cheating wife. They'd been together for 14 years of hell. The divorce hasn't even been finalized yet, until April 17th. He met someone new almost month ago. Ever since, they spend time together on the weekends and a few times a week. She's been parking in his garage for weeks now, probably since after the first date. Is this all too soon? Is it a rebound relationship? He says he really likes her... but do you think it will last?
And no, I know for a fact that he wasn't cheating on his wife months ago with her. He JUST met her a month ago.
2007-03-29 11:49:16 · 22 answers · asked by pfwqjkhk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I do have feelings for him... as well as he has feelings for me. He says he loves me, and I've realised I'm in LOVE with him too. Problem is 13 years difference. PLEASE HELP
2007-03-29 12:11:25 · update #1
Definitely a rebound relationship, a knee-jerk reaction. He is a big boy, do not worry about it. He will most likely live through it. It probably will not last.
2007-03-29 11:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably got emotionally "over" his wife a long time before the divorce actually came about. You say they had 14 years of Hell so, he was probably completely ready to start a relationship with someone he could feel happy and good with. It is probably a rebound but it sound like what he wants right now to make himself feel better.
2007-03-29 18:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by mailersky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally normal for guys. Well not normal but its what they do. They have to have a woman bottom line. In fact I hate the way TV/movies always portray the ex-wife finding a new man immediately when in reality its the men but thats besides the point. A good friend of mine left his wife cuz she was cheating on him and within a month he had someone else. Most people need a "band-aid" (someone to heal the wounds). I say, if this woman is good for him, then be supportive and let him put the pieces of his broken heart back together the way he wants to. If shes not good for him then he needs a serious talking to! Good luck!
2007-03-29 19:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by pandog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be a rebound relationship, but it doesn't invalidate it. Rebounds have their time and place, too. They are both adults, and will figure out eventually what is or is not "too fast" for them. Like it or not - sometimes, the best cure for a broken heart is a distraction, a change of focus; and a new relationship provides just that. Not every relationship has to last for years to bring enjoyment and to be valuable. If I were you I wouldn't be overly concerned about your friend's situation just yet.
2007-03-29 19:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to me. I got out of a 10yr relationship and immediately started seeing another guy. We have been together ever since for almost 5 mos and everyone said its just a rebound or whatever. It is pretty scary going from one relationship to another, but maybe he really does care about this new person and if he is happy rebound or not let him be.
2007-03-29 18:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by lizzee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably IS a short term rebound romance, but most people need those!
Divorce is hell on your self-esteem, especially if you get cheated on. Having someone new be attracted to you---after all those years---is exactly what a divorcing person needs!
2007-03-29 18:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men usually start dating sooner than women when their marriages break up, its a program inside them, to move on and the easiest way is to get back out there and quick. He may like her very much, she is filling a void, but chances are he is moving a bit fast, and will probably have a few other relationships till he finds the ONE. He deserves to be happy, and as long as he is not hurting anyone, then at least throw him a big party when his divorce is final! lol!
2007-03-29 18:54:18 · answer #7 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any woman willing to get involved with a man going through a divorce should expect to be the "rebound fling."
It's your friends business how involved he gets with this gal. I'm sure the divorce is a bruise to his pride and ego and having someone new gives him some positive outlook on a bad situation.
Be there for him as his friend-----not the morality police.
2007-03-29 19:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a rebound and it might turn into something more. It is possible that his hellish marriage was over, at least emotionally, for years before either could admit it. That's what happened for me, my marriage was over long before I could admit it. He will sort it out. I would suggest that you encourage him to go slowly, as far as committment goes. Don't rush into another marriage, that would spell trouble. I wish him all the happiness he can find with his new girlfriend, or someone else.
2007-03-29 18:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by passionatemilf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is just trying to get his life back on track let him be. Maybe this is letting him get over his divorce and the years of torture he went through.
Do not get involved this is his life be a supportive friend but do not tell him what is right or wrong for him at this time. Remember you are not him and you have know idea what he may be going through.
God Bless!
2007-03-29 18:59:41 · answer #10 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋