ok, my dad has officaly moved out of our house! What now...i cant stand to see my mom cry, but when ever i say the word dad she gets all depressed and shuts down on me. My dad is bringing me and my brother out to dinner in a lil bit...when i told my mom my brother is going she started yelling and slamming doors like it was my fault or something....i dk wat to do, i cant see my mom like that but i cant not talk about my dad...i dk wat to do i dont even want to live here anymore. i just want to get away from everything...and i cant!!!! HELP! o and PLZ dont b rude
2007-03-29 11:26:39 · 4 answers · asked by ily912 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am so sorry that you have to grow up so fast.
I cannot tell you why your dad left your family unit. Your Dad & Mom probably cannot articulate (talk) about it well eithor. During these situations many adults do break down and need help. As a child you can help your parents. You can do so by reaching out to other family members. Do you have any Uncles, Aunts, Grandparents that you hang out with? Where do you goto church? Find adults in these places and see if any of these adults can connect with your parents.
I know you wish you could wave a magic wand and erase this pain. However, I challenge you to transform this pain into something good for you and your brother. The journey you will take from here on out may get more difficult before it gets easier, but you can do it. Cling to your remaining family and friends. Each day find a time where you can be alone and allow yourself to be sorry for 5 minutes and then find joy for the next five minutes.
This separation is not your fault, is not your brothers fault. It is the ability of your parents to come to a compromise of which they may or may not understand.
2007-03-29 11:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know how old you are, but you are about to grow up really fast. Tell your mom that you know she's upset. That this isn't your fault. That you still want a relationship with your father. Don't yell at her. If she yells at you, and she probably will, just walk away. Be firm and strong. Give her a couple days. If it doesn't change anything, than talk to your father. See if he'll talk to her for you. And as cheesy and lame as it sounds tell a teacher or an adult outside the situation who knows you and may be able to help your specific situation. I know you're really hurt, but asking advice from strangers online for a problem this personal and big, may not be the best approach.
Good Luck
2007-03-29 18:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by minix0987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for all that you are going through. Please know that no matter what it is not your fault.. You did nothing wrong.. Just try and be good and listen to your mom and eventually things will calm down.. Mom is very sad that dad has left and needs some time to mourn the end of her marriage.. Can you talk to a social worker in school? Just hug and kiss your mom a lot and I know that will make her feel just a little better.. She needs to be loved right now and just as you do too.. Good luck and take care of yourself
2007-03-29 23:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you and your brother are going through this, but please know it is Not you and your brothers fault that your dad left. As much as this is hurting you and your Brother, can you realize how much pain and heartbreak your Mom is going through? Give her some time, this is all new to her now and she is going through a hard time. Just be there for her when she needs to talk. Try not to mention your dad around her unless she brings up the subject. In time she will be smiling again and her old self..
2007-03-29 18:41:53 · answer #4 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋