A friend of mine from high school is leaving his wife. I asked why. He said because his wife is not nice to him. I said, "Are you nice to your wife?" He had no answer. Just shrugged his shoulders.
2007-03-29 10:50:14 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't have a mistress and have never been unfaithful to my wife. However, it would be a truly horrible day when I man gave more affection to a woman other than his wife.
2007-03-29 10:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If that was the only factor and based on all things being equal I would say yes and agree with you. Food for thought though would be what if you are kind to both your mistress and your wife, then what would substantiate or be the reason for the mistress? Most of the reasons are not the real reasons but the kind of thought process you use is correct, and you have probably been misled or told part of the story or the excuse as a reason to change for something more than what you have. Go figure.
2007-03-29 19:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by g_menagerie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key is the distance. The guy and Mistress only get together to have fun and sex. That is all they do. The wife is like a ball and chain..there all the time...talking about problems..and making things hard for the guy. He just want to have fun and sex, he can worry about all that stuff after wards. The wife wants everything fixed first...though she will never feel everything is fixed...
2007-03-29 18:00:12 · answer #3 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes - you would have a good marriage. I think it is only natural that when your spouse shows kindness you want to return it. It is hard to have an argument when the other half is being calm and reasonable. People say you hurt the ones you love the most. It is sad, but true. You are not going to snap at your neighbor for not putting his plate in the dishwasher. I notice that when I go above and beyond our relationship is a lot better.
2007-03-29 17:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if men would treat their wives like they treat their mistress, there would be no need for the mistress, but because they have the mistress, they are not focused on the wife, just the mistress, so the wife gets ignored, and begins to feel as if she is not longer loved anymore, so she begins to treat him differently. he knows what he has done, but doesn't really care that he has treated his wife unfairly.
2007-03-29 17:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a mistress is a mistress...so basically they are just a hole for most men..It's still the wife who takes cares of their kids and be there for them. Of course some men would disagree to what I said here but this is just my point of view.
2007-03-29 18:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by stilettofan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, happy and successful marriages are based on love and respect. Anyone who "cheats" on their wife doesn't love or respect her.
Trying to justify "cheating" by implying that someone is as "kind" to their wife as they are to their mistress, only shows how selfish and immature they are.
I wonder how they'd feel if the tables were turned and their wife cheated on them?
2007-03-29 18:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...but he and his "mistress" deserve each other and can spend anxious days wondering if the other is cheating on them. A married man who cheats on his wife is a married man who cheats on his wife. Why be married at all if you cannot trust?
2007-03-29 17:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't a good marriage be one without the presence of a mistress?
2007-03-29 17:54:03 · answer #9 · answered by frozenpancake582 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a mistress, but I am kind to my wife. Too bad she sees it as weakness
2007-03-29 18:07:33 · answer #10 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋