What will you do when you find out that your best friend tell your personal problem to everyone?

Question

what will you do to her? What i told her is my personal problem and it was suppose to be between us only.

I asked her about it and she asked for appologize. But now I hate her so much, maybe because I am still angry but when i think that sometimes she can be nice also.. i am confuse. i really want to make her life miserable right now... but I dont want to lose a friend also..

Answer 1

You don't have a best friend. You have a person in your life you thought was your firned, who was not.
You have nothing to lose by losing her. She is not trustworthy.
You can do better, even if being alone is your only option.
Do not do anything to her. Avoid her, and do not talk ugly about her or seek revenge or anything. Just leave her alone.
You eventually will get over your pain, and you won't be guilty of being worse than her.
I know it is hard to do, but you will be the better person for it.
Very often in life, we think one thing, when something else is true. It is very hard to face the truth that you have been tricked.
It is actually better to know the truth as soon as you can, and learn from it. It is often painful, but will make you a strong, kind, and independent person.
Next time you get close to someone, you may be reluctant to tell them problems that will embarrass you. You may decide to tell your mother or someone you KNOW loves you and will help you. Not betray you.
Hang in there, honey.

Answer 2

I had a girlfriend almost like the one your talking about. I knew her since first grade, over 40 yrs we were best friends. I always thought everything we talked about was just between us until information I was being told was the same information I had told her. Nobody else knew the information but her. When I confronted her about it she denied telling anybody else. That isn't any kind of a friend to have. A friend of my girlfriend broke us up and it was a good thing things ended up that way. Shes no longer a friend of mine. We dont talk or see one another anymore and my life isn't miserable anymore. I can see why you want to make her life as miserable as she made yours. I felt the same way. But if you do that then you are stooping down to her level & hopefully you are a better person than that. There are always other friends out there for you. You want my honest opinion? I would drop her as your friend and find some others that are much better. Good luck.

Answer 3

first of all a best friend doesn't share everything that is why they are your best friend and I am so tired of people having to tell everything they know that is why if my best friend did that to me I would not consider her my best friend you can do it without being mean about it don't hate her just be glad that you can learn from this and not be that kind of friend I made a promise along time ago that I would be a listener and so I am I listen to my friends and never tell them anything and I like it that way they cant keep a secret any way.
I am so sorry that this happen I would be honest though and say I dont trust you and let her know and if she is a true friend honesty wont be an issue

Answer 4

Honestly she is not much of a friend. When we become best friends with someone, we form a special bond that can't be broken. Everything that is said in that friendship is sacred. To me she broke that bond and the friendship doesn't have the same value anymore. So just keep her to be an acquaintance

Answer 5

She shouldn't have told your personal stuff. Especially that it's not her news or whatever. it concerns you. Personally, that happened, i turned my back on her... But i don't know how deep in the friendship u are. I'd still not keep the friendship... Because it happened once it can happen again. She didn't respect that this concerns you and not to be told. therefore, she does not respect you.

The decision is yours, you could cool it for a while and see what happens, if she does it again.. if she truly is sorry.... If she's not, end it...

Answer 6

Well, you did the right thing by confronting her. But I would give it time for things to 'cool down', keep her at arm's length for awhile. Once a bond of trust is broken, it's hard to get that back, no matter who did it and why. Eventually you'll be able to forgive her truly and possibly trust her again, but if you find that you can't; then there's your answer =)

Answer 7

You lost that friend when she blabbed your personal business to others...why are you concerned about losing that kind of friend? I would cut her off....no contact, conversations, etc.

Bad talking her or trying to get revenge will only force you to stoop to her level. Be the bigger person and move on. I'm sure she will be sorry for her hideous error in judgement.

Answer 8

friends like this arent truley friends. i know you hate to hear this, but she's a trader. i would drop her as a friend. like you dont have to say i dont wanna be friends no more. just gradually distance yourself from her. then sooner or later she'll get the hint. oh you should treat people how you want to be treated even if it kills you, b/c if your mean to her people are gonna think your a b*tch. you should just try to be as happy and outgoing as possible around her like if your life is amazing without her. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 9

OMG this is kinda MY situation at the moment. :( & it sucks. I know its hard to lose a friend that you are attached to but things like this shows you who your REAL friends are... there's betrayal almost everywhere but its just how people are... they change & we just have to deal with it! So talk things out if possible or leave things as they are to let yourself cool down a bit... Good luck!

Answer 10

A good friend will not tell all your business...maybe you need some new friends. Or don't tell her anymore of your personal problems