My fiancee has said that i keep making him feel guilty about talking to his friends. Is there anyway i can prevent this as i hadn't realised. and i really wanna sort it. He said it was cus when he goes up on his computer and he closes himself off when he does and he wont even talk to me. He also dont talk to his friends that much anyway as i have been trying to get him to and he wont. When ever he talks to then he makes it sound like i do but i am sure i dont i only get abit funny if that person is his ex which is understandable surely. But he also cant tell me what i am doing to male him feel like that as we only have days off together 1 day every 3 weeks because of the jobs we have. Can someone help me with this or explain it?
Thanks
2007-03-29 09:35:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we live togther just never see each other cus when ones working the other is off.
2007-03-29 09:44:03 · update #1
he acts like im not there if hes on the computer, to be honest we have both been working all day and he is playing his x box instead of talking to his friends or me but i just feel like i am being blamed for him not talking to them
2007-03-29 09:49:22 · update #2
The fact that he locks himself in his computer room alone and is iffy about you being in there worries me. It sounds like he has something to hide. Also the fact that he is trying to guilt you into thinking you are keeping him from his friends also is not good. I would think if you only had one day every three weeks with a person than you would want to spend it with that person uninterrupted. I have serious concerns about your relationship. I think you need to ask him some tough questions like, "what is so private on the computer that I cant ever come in?" Why are you pulling away from me? Sounds to me his is trying to blame you for his own anti social behavior. Good Luck.
2007-03-29 09:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something like this, you're going to have to come out and ask him. It's complex problem that only he can solve with you. You don't want to be confrontational about it, just ask. Give examples and time frames and mention you don't see each other a lot, and when you do he's on the computer. You deserve to have a good answer, if he can't give you one or it sounds like an excuse, I'd reevaluate the relationship.
2007-03-29 09:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I kind of have the same thing w/ my bf whom I've been living with for a year. All his friends are mutual of his ex gf whom I loathe more than anything on the planet. So of course I get pissed off when he invites these losers over. I am not in any way trying to prevent him from having friends...I have talked to my mom about it, and she told me that the best thing to do when he's w his friends is go out with my own. Make your own fun...don't count or wait around for him.
2007-03-29 09:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by tinkerbell_pixy24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question is really hard to understand but I will try to help. Just make sure you are not interfering with his friendships,they are important to him.If you are not,maybe he is just trying to start a fight with you and if that is the case then you have got a bigger problem.I am to the age where I don't have alot of patience with people and their b.s and games so if things don't get better I would find someone new,you don't need the stress.
2007-03-29 09:41:53 · answer #4 · answered by Lori O 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is feeling guilty about talking to his friends because he is talking about being more than friendly. Sounds to me like he has got a porn addiction or maybe a chat romance going. In either case ....none of it's your fault. May be time to get a new boyfriend.
2007-03-29 09:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What your bf is doing sounds fishy. If he had nothing to hide why does he have to hide in the computer room for? Nothing wrong with having friends but sounds to me like he has more than friends he's chatting to.
2007-03-29 09:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
something is missing from your story - or at least his. If you only see each other once every 3 weeks there isn't anything stopping him from talking to his friends - question is - what's he doing when you're not around.
2007-03-29 09:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by Brown'n 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
been here honestly you could do beta he does not love you otherwise he wouldnt have his head in the computer and he would stop talking to his ex's sorry. but its true
2007-03-29 10:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by rachael p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like hes addicted to porn.
2007-03-29 09:38:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try spell checker!
2007-03-29 09:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by Twigward 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋