I posted it in here bc i figured you guys might understand more. Im 25 and have been dating a 34 year old since December. Everything was going great, he was so romantic, leaving gifts in my house for no reason, calling me everyday from work, taking me out everyday, telling me that he was doing things for me hes never done for anyone, he never pressured me for sex, in fact he would stop it whenever it got to the point when my shirt could come off. He ended up moving in bc his roomate found someone to pay cheaper rent, i never wanted him too. He went on a two week business trip to central america...hes mexican. When he got back, i noticed that there were condoms in his see-through travel bag. I confronted him and he said that they were old and he didnt use them. They were old and our mutual friends said he was sleeping in the same room as his boss and they didnt have time to go out. The same day i ended up going out and i got slightly drunk and smoked pot for the first time
2007-03-29 08:35:26 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i ended up asking him personal questions and insulting him. I apologized. since then he was staying gone and says he was trying to give me space. He stopped sleeping with me and kissing me. He said he was just exhausted from work. I noticed that a couple weeks ago he asked a girl out on a date on myspace. Her friend made some comment after his post that wasnt very nice i confronte him and he said they never met up. Ive been out of town for the past week and ive noticed he left a bulletin on myspace that says E and then I have no idea how to contact you and myspace is not helping. Is he cheating? The girls name is Elizabeth. He called yesterday and kept saying i know you are dying to know what im doing...i said no
2007-03-29 08:37:48 · update #1
i really love him. we went to a wedding this past weekend and he acted normal...holding my hand through the ceremony, kissing me, looking at me, pulling out my chair. I know he is jealous of my guy friends, hes always asking about my "boyfriends", but he encourages me to hang out with them. I dont want to loose him. One day he wrote a list with all the bad things ive done. I have gotten drunk maybe 3 tiems, one time i cried for two hours and he didnt speak to me for 2 days. He said that i danced in front of my guy friend, i didnt. Again is he just trying to make me jealous? I also would keep mentioning all the guys that liked me before. Have i lost him for good? Ive asked him to move out at least...im afraid to go home, i dont know how to act.
2007-03-29 08:40:10 · update #2
You and your boyfriend seem to have a big strain in your relationship and it is not good for you and him, if you find something strange in his travel bag and he can not explain why it is there then there is something wrong and he is afraid to tell you because he figures that it won't matter. Then when you go to a friend wedding and he starts doing what he did when you and him first met then there is a chance that what happened while he was gone and you were gone that he let go of something that could have effected the relationship and wanted to end it if he is still dating or seeing this woman that you claim he is seeing then find out why and if he seems genuine talk about it and then decide to let it go. You and him could take a break and figure things out so that your relationship can once again breathe and you and him can do what you need to do, if it is meant to be then it is meant to be.
2007-03-29 09:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, one. you moved in together too quickly. two..you dont talk to the guy you love about past relationships...thats for friends to hear if you have to vent or whatever. its a good idea to cut relationship ties to male friends that arent also his friends or male family members. some guys relate dancing to more than just excercise, hope he realizes dancing doesnt have to be sexual. the condom thing, well, he hung on to them. guys dont throw those away. still suspicious and he should be open about sex if youre in a relationship with him.
getting drunk with girls is nearly as bad as getting drunk around guys. drunk, you arent sober and dont think clearly and may do stupid things. dont smoke pot. ok, now that ive acted like ur big sis....i can tell you that if he's still with you, there is always hope. peace.
2007-03-29 08:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he is just playing you, and has used you for a place to stay, get rid of him and move on so you can find someone else more worth your time.....
2007-03-30 07:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
big red flag!
get him out of your life, YEAH he's cheating!
2007-03-29 08:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIS ILLEGAL USIN' A$S TO GO BACK TO MEXICO WHERE HE CAME FROM...
2007-03-29 08:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think?
2007-03-29 08:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by danzahn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋