I have tried sexy outfits, sex, playing golf with him, and sharing his interest. But he shows no interest in me and the things I like to do like bicycling, visiting friends, swimming. I'm really tired of spending so much time alone. I have talked with him about it, but still nothing. I need a man's point of view on this one.
2007-03-29 08:31:45 · 21 answers · asked by OTOTW 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He may just need a little world to climb into alone once in a while. Golf may be that for him. I have a hobby, I spend allot of time at it, it does NOT mean I don't love my wife or that I don't want to spend time with her. If YOU have hobbies or things you like to do without him, there's your time to do it. If he's spending more time ignoring you and playing/watching golf than he is making you happy, ask him to see a counselor or start by yourself. One of the problems that I had found in my marriage was that my wife became a part of me. The honeymoon was over. For example, I don't sit there stroking my arm saying, "wow there arm, I really need you and love you" but when I broke it , I damn sure knew it and missed the use of it and it SURE made me realize that I NEED MY ARM and I am glad it's there for me! it's an important part of me as is my wife. Relax, deal with this problem as something you intend to find a remedy for, not a reason for divorce or to "teach him a lesson" because it may just be honest stupidity on his part.
2007-03-29 09:06:25 · answer #1 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sounds fantastic to me, but I'm less of an 'alone time' guy then many males. I'd be delighted with what you suggest.
When you have 'talked about it' with him, I wonder what you've said. Be really really blunt. Say 'I need you to spend some time every week doing things with me that I enjoy, because I need you, and I need to spend more time with you'.
I don't even like golf but you sound good. Especially if you mix areas. Like sexy golf outfits.
2007-03-29 10:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know i got tired of him golfing without me so i started golfing and now i'm more hooked than he is, i enjoy golfing and watching golf for me not for him, and thats what makes him notice me, the genuine actual like of golf, but why dont you let him do his thing and you go bicycling or swimming and i am going to tell you people that are addicted to golf ARE addicted to golf.....good luck
2007-03-29 08:43:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun....I'm fresh out of ideas if you've tried all of the stuff you said you have. Just the sexy outfits should have done it. And golf? Sheesh....what a dull game. Knocking a ball all around a cemetery lawn.
My philosophy is that the object of the game is the least amount of times you hit the ball, the better your chances of winning. So...why play at all?
2007-03-29 08:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Go back to talking it out.
Try to figure out what has changed since things were all about you and he.
Get serious with your talks, not mean or nasty, just let him know what you expect. Then ask him if he feels its reasonable. He might not like to talk, but, if your unhappy, your on a road..know what I mean?
Also, realize, men don't need as much emotional togetherness. So, he might be getting all he needs and just hasn't noticed your not getting yours. We can be oblivious.
It is not intentional.
I wish you well.
2007-03-29 08:45:20 · answer #5 · answered by Shwack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I hate to tell you this, but if the man shows more interest in his golf games than in you, you need to just beat him at his own game. Don't watch golf with him, don't play it, skip the sexy outfits... Once all those things are missing in the relationship, he will come crawling back seeking your attention!
2007-03-29 08:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I know someone who wentt through the same thing except he was so into playing his guitar and barely paying attention to the girl. And i got advice for her from one of my closest guy friends. So my advice would be to just stop giving him so much attention..hes gunna feel like ur alwayss guna be there when he feelz like it, even tho whenever u might want his affection he wont give u any. And dont push him or try to talk to him about being more affectionate with u because its definately not gonna help. Just go do ur own thing like swimming, shopping or whatever u want to do and see how he likes it!!
2007-03-29 08:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by Milena 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I was on the same boat as you are before. I decided to ignore him and stopped being supportive about the sport because he was spending more time on it than his responsibility as a parent and husband. Eventually he drifted out from the sport and he noticed that I was ignoring him.
2007-03-29 09:40:39 · answer #8 · answered by stilettofan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY HUSBAND IS BIG IN SOFT BALL WHEN WE FIRST GOT MARRIED IT USE TO MAKE ME JEALIOUS BUT I FOUND THE ANSWER I LEARNED TO KEEP THE SCORE BOOKS AND STARTED GOING WITH HIM AFTER 29YRS OF MARRIAGE WE HAVE A HOBBY THAT WE BOTH ENJOY AND I GET KISSES IN BETWEEN THE ENDINGS !!
2007-03-29 10:53:21 · answer #9 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like fun to me. Does he want to be the next Tiger Woods or something? Golf is boring.
2007-03-29 08:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋