Argument with G/F. Who's right? Need womens opinions.?

Question

I am not circumcized nor do I want to be. Last night during foreplay with gf of 5 years this subject came up. She says that tho she doesnt really mind my extra long skin but wished it would stay retracted back all the time.(to look circumcised) She said most other women wouldn't put up with it and that every woman she knows prefers the man to be circumcized. I never had any other woman in the past mention this. Is she serious. I like mine the way it is and want to keep it that way.
We live in Az. What do most women prefer,,circumcised or skin. Who's right, Her or me?

Answer 1

If you want a women's opinion, then post in the women's group.

Answer 2

It is your body and your decision not hers. However I have heard that it can cause pain for a man sometimes during intercourse if he is not circumcised and it can be a cause of infections. If you keep yourself clean there and you don't feel discomfort than don't get it done. However, I understand that it is very traumatic to have it done as an adult. It is quite painful and causes a great deal of swelling during the healing process. I imagine but don't know for a fact that it would also be painful to urinate. It is for a woman for a time after giving birth. It also might interfere with your sexual responses after having it done due to fear of the pain you would now associate with it having been done. Having experienced both ways in men I have known in a biblical sense I don't find it a big deal. Don't let her bully you into doing it. It sounds like the cases where a man bullies a woman into getting breast implants. Drop her if she makes it too uncomfortable for you about this matter as she will never stop complaining about it and eventually make your life miserable because of her endless complaining about other things she finds fault with. You want some one in your life that builds you up not tears you down. Also discuss it with a doctor and get the pros and cons from him and pass them on to her. I believe I've heard that the Army will circumcise new recruits if it has not yet been done but don't know if it is fact or fiction but you can ask a recruiting officer if it is true.

Answer 3

She is the product of 100 years of propaganda that this is a good thing to do, when in fact nowadays no medical authority in the world recommends routine infant circumcision anymore. A man should have a right to a whole body. She would be rightfully outraged if you insisted that she have a breast enlargement because that's the only way you like her body. Trying to retract all the time would cause you a lot of discomfort, as well as cause the glans to dry out, get a thicker covering and become less sensitive. This takes away a lot of the advantages of being inntact.
Circumcision removes over half the skin of the penis (about 15 square inches in an adult) and it's not just simple skin. It's packed with nerve endings, special anatomical features like the ridged band and has a unique elastic gliding action, allowing it to slide on itself and act like lube. This action is what most males use to masturbate with except those who are cut so tightly that they have to use lube or just rub it dry. Of course the intact male has the option to use lube too if he wants to. During intercourse it acts like lube on entry and may act as a dam, preventing lubricating secretions escaping from the vagina. In one study women reported that sex with an intact partner was gentler and more satisfying since he doesn't have to thrust as hard to feel enough stimulation. Removing the foreskin turns the surface of the glans from an inner mucosal membrane to outside skin. Newly circumcised adults usually go through some weeks of intense discomfort as the glans is constantly exposed to rubbing on clothing, until it develops a thicker keratin layer and becomes less sensitive. They also suffer bruising and swelling. The swelling can last six months or more. While healing they can't have any sex at all for 6 weeks or more.
A new study has shown real differences in fine touch sensitivity between circumcised and intact penises and that the most sensitive parts of the intact penis are those that would be removed by circumcision.
It's a fallacy that circumcised men last longer because they are less sensitive. I believe that because they can feel less they have to thrust harder to feel anything much and that gives them less control before they find themselves going over the edge.
I myself am circumcised. I have hated it ever since as a 12 year old I saw a mate masturbating with a foreskin and realised a little of what I had lost. I will never forgive my parents and the medical profession for doing it to me.
So I believe you are right. Don't give in to her but she is just mouthing the ignorant opinions of many people in the US and sadly even elsewhere. Like I said 100 years of propaganda is hard to overcome. Somehow people have become so used to it that many think a mutilated penis with a brown scar round it looks better than a natural one. Greeks and Romans found the circumcised penis horrific, as tragic as we wold feel about female circumcision.

Answer 4

If she's been with you for 5 years, why is it just coming up now? Is there some other problem? Just a nugget to think about. I think she's wrong when she says that most women wouldn't put up with it. If a lady really loves you, that sort of thing won't matter. Some women might prefer circumcised men but it becomes a non-issue when you care about the guy.

Answer 5

Apparently, from what i read, 60% of men in the US are circumcised. But she's wrong in saying that most women prefer it. All the women she knows might, but i know i prefer it uncircumcised. But then i live in merry old england, where most men aren't circumcised.

It's up to the individual, really. But if she's starting rows about something as minor as this, you need to think about your relationship. A penis is a penis and it'll do the same job whether it's circumcised or not!!!

Answer 6

I've never been with an uncircumcised guy. However, my opinion is that if you're not circumcised, you should stay that way. It seems very unnatural to me to remove a part of the body just so you'll "look like" other guys. I have friends who had their sons circumcised for that very reason. My husband is circumcised, but we chose to leave our son intact. Our son understands (more or less -- he's only 7) why he looks different from his dad, and they're both fine with it. From what I've heard, uncircumcised guys experience even greater sexual pleasure. Your gf sounds a bit selfish to me. Why the heck does she care what your penis looks like after five years?

Answer 7

No one is right, because it is your personal choice. On the other hand, women have a different set-up down there, and we are more prone to bacterial infections and such. So generally women prefer circumcised men, because it is cleaner. Not to mention it's a lot more appealing when it comes to oral. If she is someone you are looking to marry and this is a true concern for her, maybe talk further about it (not during foreplay), and see if you can come to an understanding. But this isn't something worth an argument. You both have valid points. But relationships are about compromising.

Answer 8

I personally don't like circumsized men. My boyfriend is not circumsized and I love it.She's entitled to her preferences; however, it is YOUR penis and if you like it the way it is, that is all that matters.As well, a circumcision at your age would just be ridiculous and cause unnecessary pain. If it bothers her that much, than why did she wait 5 years to tell you? Chances are, she was just mindlessly chattering.

There's not really any right or wrong in this situation. Its more like what you like and what she likes.End of story.

Answer 9

Your girlfriend is flatout WRONG -- in fact, a full 90% of women who've had both say sex is better with an intact man. http://www.healthcentral.com/drdean/408/60750.html She sounds selfish and spoiling for a fight. This is not really about your foreskin, believe me!

A new study out this past week proves conclusively, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that circumcision decreases sensitivity for the man. http://www.blackwell-synergy.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1464-410X.2006.06685.x Surely she can't want you to lose a large part of your sexual pleasure if she cares a thing about you. You deserve better than this shallow twit.

Answer 10

Well I've been with both circumcised and not circumcised. To me there is no difference. The only difference is the appearance. Hell both of them get the job done so why complain.

Answer 11

I prefer circumcised, but that's all it is: a preference. I would love my boyfriend's body no matter what it's appearance. I love him for who he is and for who I am because of him.
You girlfriend should appreciate you for who and what you are. And you are right to be happy with youself just the way you are.

Maybe you should let her know that what she said affected you and that you would never criticize the body that she was given.