I need help everyone. I am engaged to a WONDERFUL man, whom which I used to be friends with his child's mother. She used me to her advantage and only spoke to me when she found it convienent, such as if she were having problems with other friends, or needed something.... which is why I really dont feel bad about being with him. (Him and I contemplated dating before they became an item).
Well, the thing is... We have told her about us being together, and now, she has helped esculate false rumors and lies about me (VERY IMMATURE) and is driving my fiance crazy by threatening not to help pay for daycare, or taking his parental visits away. What can I do to help him?
2007-03-29 07:56:40 · 9 answers · asked by LeLe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think all three of you should sit down and talk about what you have in common: the welfare of the child.
She can't just "take away" his parental rights becuase she feels like it, nor can she just refuse to pay her share of daycare - these are legal obligations that can (and should) be documented in court.
The focus of your meeting should be on doing what's right for the child, no matter what. If anyone starts to get personal, keep calm and bring the discussion back to the child. Try to make her understand that the child is really the only thing you all have in common and nothing else should enter into the equation. If she insists on talking about other things, tell her (calmly) that you're there to talk about the child only.
Good luck!
2007-03-29 08:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by Wonderland 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You put yourself in a real sticky situation here, I hope that he is worth it and this is the real deal... engagement ring and wedding date not just saying your my fiance for kicks.. know what I mean. If this is the real deal first understand that she is upset and right out pist and with good cause not only has her ex and father of her child moved on but he has done so with someone she knows regardless if you were true friends or not. With that in perspective she does not have the right to assualt or harass either of you. Again providing this is the real thing it's time for you all to come together for a sit down, and draw out what is to be expected from all of you. If she continues report her to the police. Also try to keep your word, suggestion, ideas, adv ise, input to a limit you are the fiance not the third permanent wheel. Keep your place by your fiances side as his biggest supporter and although you should and can be present for most pick ups and drop offs you really should have little to say other than hello, goodbye... get the idea...
2007-03-29 08:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd bypass so some distance as getting a restraining order against her on your baby and your self. i'm beneficial your fiance heavily isn't too delighted, even though it is not his determination, he ought to talk up, and if he won't, do in simple terms it. it is your baby, and you have administration of the area in case you desire it. I actually would not submit with that!! sturdy success woman, i wish each and all of the superb suited for you and your loved ones
2016-10-01 21:50:07 · answer #3 · answered by doolin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seriously think about this relationship. You are not only marring the man but also the child. The child's mother comes as a package deal. How old is the child? You will have to be in contact with his mother constantly until the child is grown. If you can't be civil to each other what effect will it have on this child? I suggest you think more about this child than yourself here.
2007-03-29 08:10:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BabyMama Drama is a nightmare, and it don't help that you were supposed to be this chicks friend. She is probably resentful and until she gets over the situation, trust she is going to continue to be a b***ch. Your fiance needs to make sure he knows what his rights are and if neccessary take legal action.It's not so much as her being immature she is hurt, the shoe could be on the other foot, cause if he did it to her he just might do it to you. KARMA
2007-03-29 08:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by deelicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you found out that she really wasn't a real friend. She is a gossip and you need to ignore what she says about you. she is angry and probably jealous. Hopefully, your fiance had legal rights to the visitation, but her commitment to help pay daycare can probably be revoked.
2007-03-29 08:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't take his rights away he can take her to court and the judge will tell her he has a right to see his kids she is playing games keep her out of your business and don't tell her chit and tell him not to either.
2007-03-29 08:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep backing him up and let him know you are in his corner.
2007-03-29 08:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick her butt.
2007-03-29 08:00:37 · answer #9 · answered by James k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋