what keeps you there?
what makes you tough out and love your lady?
and what you want your women to do beside sex?
please serious answer?what do she need to do?
2007-03-29 07:56:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honestly.....
Really quick answer...
SUPPORT!
All men want is someone who won't kick him when he's down. Men want someone who's going to stand behind him in the midst of all hell and say, "I'm siding with him". We love loyalty. If you can know that you're husband is making a bad decision and walk with him through it, (instead of telling him what a dumb decision it it...) you will have gained the respect that the women in midevil times used to have. That's why the men would die for them. They knew that their women would die as well for them. Stand by him and get hurt with him, fight with him and struggle with him. In return you'll have a lifelong partner who will never want to put you through that again!
2007-03-29 08:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by clayborne112 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have your act together, education,career, home, future, mind,body and spiritually, and no I don't mean a bible thumper
You'll get a thousand different answers, unless your already married, it's up to you to find someone who fits you, not you fit them.
You'll want someone who has the act together as well, see above.
Make a list and stick to it, and I don't mean has to look like Brad Pitt.
Having said that and being divorced and remarried I'll tell you what I looked found.
My best friend, I can share my deepest thoughts with and not be judged.
My lover, she's all I need because she keeps me happy as I do her
My soul mate, she's the last love I'll ever have, because I'm not looking nor would take if it was offered to me.
She had a job she has been at for the last 25 yrs. with her retirement. so she not hanging on for my money.
She keeps me at home because she trusts me as I do her. We don't do or say thngs that would offend the other. I don't have porn nor go to strip clubs, she doesn't have to go to the bar and flirt.
Because we give each other all our undivided attension, we never keep secrets from each other, except for the holidays, then we break the rules.
Why don't fight, at worst we have in the past had intense conversations. We never go to bed mad at each other.
We never let anything nor anyone come between us, including our kids.
we do still take long drives and just talk, we hold hands, we shop together,even groceries.
We still kiss in public,and play grab @SS when no ones looking.
We still say I love before bed and when we part to go to work and when were hanging up the phone from a conversation.
Sounds like a new romance huh?
We've been married 12 yrs.
Hope you find what I found, it was at the end of a rainbow
2007-03-29 15:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by walker9842 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
O.K. There are 5 basic things men need/want.
1. Admiration (we want our women to respect and trust us, this is big. Trust that we have your best interest in mind. If you want to be a princess you have to view your man as a knight.
2. Fun (we want our wives to be as fun when we start dating untill we are old and wrinkled. You know. Don't stop doing the things you did at the courting stage. Men are afraid that when women get married they change )
3. Domestic Support (peace!!!, men just want it simple. We want to come home to peace....so no matter how crappy it was at work, it was all worth it when you come home to your loved-ones,.......kind of like a santuary.)
4. Attractiveness (girls you don't have to look like a super-model, actually in our eyes you already do, but, we do need you to put out an effort to look as good as you can. It just shows us that you care)
5. Sex ( whether we like it or not, the fact is we need it. It is physical. I know for girls it is more mental/emotional, but for guys....we just have a physical need.
I've been together with my wife for 20 years now and it is so hard to convey our needs. Men feel weak when we convey needs and feelings so we tend to avoid it. Again it took 20 years for me and my wife to start really sharing. I hope others read this and communicate 100% openly. If you can't be totally free and honest and safe with your spouse then what do you really have. Talk.
2007-03-29 15:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by Shwack 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
o.k... heres the perfect answer..... U CANT!!!! the truth is that its not what a women does for man that keeps him with u because there is always something that another women does more of, better than, less of, or even does at all..... the fact of the matter is that u can do all these things u want to try and keep him but if he is not ready, and willing to commit, then thats just it... there is always a thrill to a man (also nature) to conquer more territory (if u know what i mean), when it boils down to it its not what u do, its about the maturity level of that man, please dont think age has anything to do with it also, i know 50+ year olds who im more mature than in relationships.... just continue on your path to better yourself and it will come to u...
good luck on your journey sweetie!
2007-03-29 15:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by almostthere$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The #1 thing that keeps men there is willingness communicate and work things out instead of storming off every time we do something that you don't like. From what I've seen, the lack of willingness and/or ablity to communicate is one of the biggest reasons couples give up the fight to stay together. If you want us to listen to you then we expect you to do the same for us.
2007-03-29 15:06:08 · answer #5 · answered by D.L. Miller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sustain it by doing exactly what I do for you. Cook, clean, nuturing and being there when either one of us really needs the other for support, comfort, advice and love.
Hell...it isn't complicated. just that there are entirely too many people who don't want to give all of themselves to another person who does the same for you.
Too bad......I've made it for 23 years acting this way. Some of us have more talent and are luckier I guess.
2007-03-29 15:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Realize that men don't like shopping
Football and sportcenter IS important.
Men do not know the difference between off-white and eggshell. Please don't ask about that.
If you want something fixed, tell him. IF you just want emotional support, ask your girlfriends.
Men do need male bonding sometimes.
Men like hot food and cold beer, not salads and pink cocktails.
Do not emasculate him.
Men do not need another mother,
Listen when he has to talk and vent about his work.
Have a sense of humor and be funny and fun.
Men do fart , burp and scratch, so just laugh it off.
S ex is important, even more so after having children
2007-03-29 15:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
love is what keeps me here,you see my wife cheated on me maybe i did to much for her i cooked , cleaned watched the kids paid the bills went grocery shopping never was unfaithful to her even after she was to me , but what keeps me here is the feelin and that we just met and we have been together 17 years ..she truly is a good person ,sex isn't and never will be a issue all i ever wanted her to do was be honest with me respect me just as much as she wants to be respected in returned
2007-03-30 00:16:20 · answer #8 · answered by Jake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend, confidant, someone I can feel comfortable telling anything without fear of being judged, someone that is quick to laugh, doesnt allow the evryday challenges of life destroy their whole day, if you have those things with both parties the sex part just happens
2007-03-29 15:01:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Feed us, sex us, and let us watch the game.
Don't talk to us for an hour after we wake up and don't talk to us for an hour after we come home from work.
We are not that deep. Just follow the above and you will get everything you want from your man.
2007-03-29 15:10:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋