Can you go back to a spouse that has cheated then forgive him?

Answer 1

I would not even try. If my spouse was to give herself to someone else (what is most precious to me), then I would have zero respect and zero trust in the future. Certain lines can only be crossed once with me and there is no recovery.

Answer 2

It depends on long you have been apart, Depends how he treated you when were together. Did he live with this woman are go out with her. I think once your husband has and you found out, all trust that you had for him is gone. I'm like a elephant I may make you think I have forgiven or forgotten but I'm just waiting for you do it anything to me again and I'll pounce on you. I could never take a man back once he has cheated on me, because I feel once a cheater always a cheater. Even if he doesn't cheat you will always be watching him, come late from work or just looking at someone else it comes to your mind ,has he been cheating again. Your trust is gone and if you don't trust someone you just can't live with them happily , so the answer is no.

Answer 3

it really depends on the situation...but if the spouse cheated---for example---out of spite, then no I would not go back to that spouse. if the spouse cheated (for drugs, money, etc)...then probably not...although again it depends, but I am not like most people who would say "fvck it" and leave the spouse if that spouse cheats.

Answer 4

No. If you get back together,you'll always be thinking after you start being intimate,is he thinking of me,or the other women he cheated with? Am I good enough for him?
someone cheating is something that sits on your mind and you constantly think about it,you always wonder. It's not worth getting back together when things won't be what they were.

Answer 5

it would really depend on their show of remorse, and if they were going to stop cheating, and it would really depend if it was a pattern of behavior with them, or a one time thing. u can go back but forgetting and forgiving isn't that easy. would take alot of work, and communication, he would have to understand that what he did hurt u, would just depend on his attitude about things. if he were sincere, he should be begging u, and pleading with u, and promising u he won't do it again, if not than he isn't going to change because he doesn't see what he did was wrong.

Answer 6

I suppose it depends on how committed you both are to working through it . I'd say it would be incredibly tough. If you or your spouse wants to cheat, then why would you want to go back ?

Answer 7

You can, but unless both of you are determined to work very hard on the relationship it may not work. He needs to realize it will take you awhile to trust him again, and that it might take some time for you to be loving to him. If you feel like he really is sorry and you really love him and want to work it out, then go for it.

Answer 8

Me...no way. No way would I take my soon to be ex back. he has lied to me and has lied to our kids and has lied to the gal he cheated(ing) on me with. In my eyes he will always be a liar and a cheater...I can't believe or trust anything he says. I refuse to live a life where I would be questioning his every single move, phone call, or texts. Life is too short. I rather be alone then live that way.

Answer 9

In my opinion I would say no. It takes a very strong person to do that because trust me you can forgive...but you never ever forget.

Answer 10

Nope! I can't stay with someone and everyday realize that the love of my life had intercourse with another woman. That would take a toll on my self esteem and our love life.