It's been about 3-4 months and don't miss it all. My bf and I had a talk last night and he told me that if I carry on being this way I will ruin our relationship and drive him away (wishful thinking that would be like a dream come true) do you think he's serious?
2007-03-29 06:49:25 · 43 answers · asked by little_friend 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think u would both be better off apart u dont seem trhat bothered he is saying he will leave. maybe yr sex drive has gone because your love 4 him has gone.
2007-03-29 09:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by lizjess2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the core of your missing sex drive is in parentheses. It is obvious that you do not want him around any more based on what you said. You appear to no longer have any intimate feelings towards him and therefore your desire to be intimate with him. This is much more common in women than men. Most men can have sex with a fence post just for the physical release, but most women have a strong emotional bond with the person they have sex with. For the most part, a guy can absolutely hate the woman and still have sex with her, but that is not normally the case with a woman. Now as for it being true, I would pretty much say he is being 100% serious. Why not just tell him the truth and ask him to speed things up and leave. Don't just hold out until on the sex until he gets tired and leaves, that is the cold thing to do. Give the guy his wings and let him go.
2007-03-29 07:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
losing the drive is one thing and i would start suggesting ways to improving your relationship however, with the comment "(wishful thinking that would be like a dream come true)" i would say that i would be considering whether it is time for you to part ways. if this is how he is feeling then i cant see it being long before he gets it elsewhere and to be honest, although you may be horrified if you discover this is true at some point, would it really be that shocking or would it be the excuse you are looking for, so why not bite the bullet and think long and hard about where you want to go with this bloke and whether you really have a future together........
2007-03-30 12:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you genuinely feel him leaving would be a dream come true... then that's what you need to sit down and talk about. Why aren't you happy with him?
You don't say how old you are, how long you've been with him, if you have children or if you live/own property together.
The way I see it, unless you have a very long history and or children.... end it.... walk away amicably and maturely.
If you have children... then I believe you owe it to the family as a whole to try very hard to improve the relationship... many people say counselling helps.
Either way, life is far too short to be unhappy. It does need addressing.... sooner rather than later.
Good luck xx
2007-03-29 07:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by happy girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex does not make a relationship.If you two don't have a stronger foundation besides sex than that's all that you guys have a strong connection in and he doesn't want to explore other parts in your relationship besides sex then yes it could ruin your relationship.Which leads me to think that ,that 's all it was in the first place to him,was sex.If you want this relationship to last try new positions,or toys ,oils videos,manual simulation,oral.Try different things be creative
2007-03-29 06:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by TRUTH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say, "wishful thinking, that would be a dream come true", so why are you worrying about driving him away. Break it off, and get on with your life! Find someone you want to be with, and enjoy yourself again, it sounds like you have just got yourself into a 'cosy' situation and don't want to split with him, purely because you don't want to be on your own, or have to go through that dating game again!
2007-03-29 06:57:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you ought to find out if you really want to be in this relationship with this guy--(driving him away--that would be wishful thinking and a dream come true?!)--instead of keeping him hanging on and playing your silly little game's. He deserves better, so let him go and find someone who can treat him better.....WITHOUT the game's.
2007-03-29 21:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, loss of sex-drive, could be a slipping clutch, or, worse, your reserves of trilithium crystals may be too low. Either way, the best thing is flip open your communicator and call Scottie. He'll know exactly what to do.
Failing that, just beam up.
2007-03-29 07:15:15 · answer #8 · answered by cosmicvoyager 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mine went for months and months at a time ,what can you both do to get your sex drive back that is if you want it back with this man i think he is being very insensitive about the issues ,my ex husband was very understanding (if you are wondering that is not what split us up) in any case sex is only a very small part of a relationship.if you want rid of him tell him and you will start to feel better good luck x
2007-03-29 10:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by flickerboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is serious hun, if you say wishfull thinking then you must not be happy either. Maybe you two should have a break for a few weeks and see how things go. Maybe a little break is what you two need.
Good luck hope it works
2007-03-29 07:01:56 · answer #10 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would you STAY with someone you dont want to be with??? Life is way too short, why would anyone waste any part of it unhappy is beyond me. I say YEA... if you want him to leave, then dont give in. Surely he will either find it elsewhere or end the relationship.
2007-03-29 07:00:22 · answer #11 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋